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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 704993" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, welcome, and so am sorry. I adopted a boy who was six from another country and he took off long ago and I never really knew why and never saw his kids. Your son could need to blame you for his own problems and I found that letters from the heart made things even worse. My son's wife egged him on but I dont know why. So you may never get answers.</p><p></p><p>I'm guessing the mother of your sons kids just wants nothing to do with your son and sadly that includes you. But that is only a guess. Nobody here can tell you for sure. I wish we all knew the whys of anything.</p><p></p><p>Everyone with these issues deals with them in our own ways. There is no right or wrong. It's whatever you feel is best. For me, intense therapy and moving on with my wonderful husband and other children, who are loving and wonderful, was the key. I can't control anybody and I accept this.</p><p></p><p>It took a few years but I am very much at peace with letting go of negative people. I have too much self respect to beg and grovel again. LIt doesn't work and it makes me feel pathetic. I have other loved ones who LIKE to be around me and I'll bet you do too.</p><p></p><p>I love my life. I am very blessed. I feel it works best for me not to dwell.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry your son is making bad choices and that you aren't seeing your grandchildren. I hope one day this changes. I do have a granddaughter from one of my kind adult children and that little girl is very dear to me. Do you have other children?</p><p></p><p>Another person you may want to get to know better is yourself. Bet you are awesome!</p><p></p><p>Wishing you the best!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 704993, member: 1550"] Well, welcome, and so am sorry. I adopted a boy who was six from another country and he took off long ago and I never really knew why and never saw his kids. Your son could need to blame you for his own problems and I found that letters from the heart made things even worse. My son's wife egged him on but I dont know why. So you may never get answers. I'm guessing the mother of your sons kids just wants nothing to do with your son and sadly that includes you. But that is only a guess. Nobody here can tell you for sure. I wish we all knew the whys of anything. Everyone with these issues deals with them in our own ways. There is no right or wrong. It's whatever you feel is best. For me, intense therapy and moving on with my wonderful husband and other children, who are loving and wonderful, was the key. I can't control anybody and I accept this. It took a few years but I am very much at peace with letting go of negative people. I have too much self respect to beg and grovel again. LIt doesn't work and it makes me feel pathetic. I have other loved ones who LIKE to be around me and I'll bet you do too. I love my life. I am very blessed. I feel it works best for me not to dwell. I am sorry your son is making bad choices and that you aren't seeing your grandchildren. I hope one day this changes. I do have a granddaughter from one of my kind adult children and that little girl is very dear to me. Do you have other children? Another person you may want to get to know better is yourself. Bet you are awesome! Wishing you the best! [/QUOTE]
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