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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 723515" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Do we have the same son?</p><p></p><p>Mine isn't gay and loves his weed and passed high school early (because he had enough credits when they kicked him out) but the lying and stealing! That was what pushed us to put him out.</p><p></p><p>We put our son out of the house the first time when he was barely 19, after an abortive college attempt. He's an only child so the only people to steal from was his father (who adopted him) and I. He was in and out, mostly out, until age 21 when he decided to move to Colorado and he's been there over a year now and doing well. </p><p></p><p>Putting my son out of the house was the hardest thing I've EVER had to do in my life, but we will not live with a thief. My husband works in a prison...he won't live locking things up to keep them safe at home and neither will I. The first time we put our son out we literally drove him to a homeless shelter a couple days later after arranging a place for him...he was with a "friend" and it was a bad situation. After the shelter we paid for an awful, buggy apartment for 6 months - we were only going to pay the deposit and co-sign, but you know how that goes. He couch surfed for a while and squatted in an apartment. It was kind of one thing after another. He came back for a short time and was doing kind of okay...the jar of cash was our final straw...he took over $600 we'd been saving. He was only allowed in one time after that, when his apartment building had a fire and he was homeless again thru no fault of his own. The stipulation then was he gave us 50% of his earnings and we kept it for his next place. </p><p></p><p>He seems to be turning his life around now that he's in Colorado and has met a nice girl. He's working and not asking us for anything really. We're very cautiously optimistic.</p><p></p><p>I guess my point is, he didn't change his ways until he was forced to do so. I never thought that I would be capable of "tough love" but that is what it took. I know how hard this is for you and I'm so sorry you've had to find us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 723515, member: 17309"] Do we have the same son? Mine isn't gay and loves his weed and passed high school early (because he had enough credits when they kicked him out) but the lying and stealing! That was what pushed us to put him out. We put our son out of the house the first time when he was barely 19, after an abortive college attempt. He's an only child so the only people to steal from was his father (who adopted him) and I. He was in and out, mostly out, until age 21 when he decided to move to Colorado and he's been there over a year now and doing well. Putting my son out of the house was the hardest thing I've EVER had to do in my life, but we will not live with a thief. My husband works in a prison...he won't live locking things up to keep them safe at home and neither will I. The first time we put our son out we literally drove him to a homeless shelter a couple days later after arranging a place for him...he was with a "friend" and it was a bad situation. After the shelter we paid for an awful, buggy apartment for 6 months - we were only going to pay the deposit and co-sign, but you know how that goes. He couch surfed for a while and squatted in an apartment. It was kind of one thing after another. He came back for a short time and was doing kind of okay...the jar of cash was our final straw...he took over $600 we'd been saving. He was only allowed in one time after that, when his apartment building had a fire and he was homeless again thru no fault of his own. The stipulation then was he gave us 50% of his earnings and we kept it for his next place. He seems to be turning his life around now that he's in Colorado and has met a nice girl. He's working and not asking us for anything really. We're very cautiously optimistic. I guess my point is, he didn't change his ways until he was forced to do so. I never thought that I would be capable of "tough love" but that is what it took. I know how hard this is for you and I'm so sorry you've had to find us. [/QUOTE]
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