My difficult daughter is 18 and we are just starting to set hard limits with her that are heartbreaking. She has not been medication compliant without strict monitoring for a couple of years. She switched medication last spring and although it didn't do wonders, it did help with physically violent outbursts at home. She remained verbally abusive on a daily basis. She graduated highschool last spring and in order to continue living in our home these were our conditions: -Medication must be taken daily without verbal abuse -Attain stable employment of 40 hours a week -Assist with laundry and dishes -Actively save for moving out or make a plan to attend community college As the summer wore on, her behavior got progressively worse. She wouldn't look for a job, do chores, or groom, and everyones interactions with her became combative. In August, I kicked her out of the home from 9AM-9PM until she obtained a job. Magically, she had one within two days. She's an exceptionally attractive girl and things fall into her lap. The first few weeks she managed to get close to 40 hours, then it dropped to 1 shift a week. We've been fighting with her to pick up shifts there since September. She's recently hired on seasonally at another job which has the potential to become permanent and pays extremely well. Unfortunately, she believes she's so awesome she doesn't need to compete for the job because they love her! They think her (manic) videos on social media are the greatest thing ever. She f'ing hates us and cant wait to leave home. She claims to have a friend to move in with although she hasn't once slept over with this friend. I'm all for this! I want her out! I don't want to live this way anymore. We've been kicking her out of the home for one or two nights a week all of Fall. Call your sister a for politely asking you not to take her stuff? Out for 24 hours! Tell mom to go f herself for waking you up at noon because you need to be to work at 3? Out for 24 hours! Refuse to unload dishwasher while cursing like a sailor? Out! Out! Out! Currently, she's been out of our home all weekend. This morning, she beat on our door at 8AM (I took her key because she will let herself in after we've asked her to leave), barged in for medications (if we don't witness medications being taken she moves out immediately. I have two minor children in our home to protect and she is violent without medication), and left in a huff. She didn't curse, but I'm thinking she's earned another night out. I'd like to put up our tree tonight and I don't want her here to ruin that. I hate feeling this way about her. I really, really do. You'd think two nights out would calm her down enough she didn't return combative but apparently not. I want to throw a book at her head whenever she's around. She's got to go! We switched her to her own car insurance policy and next week my husband is taking her look at apartments if this 'friends' offer isn't really what she insists it is. I assume she's going to go off her medications as soon as we don't supervise her. I'm wondering how we handle a relationship with her after that. I'm not willing to provide financial assistance but we will provide her with resources and assist her in obtaining them. How does SSDI work? Can you receive it if you are currently employed? Is there an income cap? I don't know how long she can maintain her jobs when she goes off medications and isn't being supervised to bathe, clean up after herself and not run wild with fools.