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At my Wits end - sorry I've not been here!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 712010" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Would you support your husband if he did what your son is doing? Why is it different? Its not. Your son is an adult abusing you.</p><p></p><p>Its loving NOT to help your son make dangerous choices by handing him money that he may use for drug use, keep him in your house which is approval of his behavior under your roof, or buying him fancy stuff he can and will sell for drug money? How is turning your back on him by making it harder for him to do these things? It is very hard for us and very loving. Sometimes you must turn away from even a beloved adult child because they need a wake up call and YOU need to stay safe too.</p><p></p><p>A lot of us had to do this. For them. For us. We matter too. In my case, my daughter found going it alone "too hard." She quit, even cigarettes, and these days is into organic food for her and her and her partner's precious baby girl. Will everyone quit? No. But why make using drugs easier? Why give them one dime that could be used to buy drugs? It has to be hard and horrible for them to quit an addictive substance. Love and housing and help is not a motivator for them to quit. Maybe nothing will be. But comfort certainly doesnt motivate. Sure, you love him...but right now he doesnt care and it hasnt helped him change. </p><p></p><p>Nobody should be in an unsafe home. That is your sanctuary. Please try to move on with your own life and let go of sons drama. Dont read his cell phone (dont pay for it either. Seems he uses it for the wrong reasons). Your knowing too much wont stop his behavior and will seriously impact your mental and physical health. </p><p></p><p>Love and light. Remember, you matter too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 712010, member: 1550"] Would you support your husband if he did what your son is doing? Why is it different? Its not. Your son is an adult abusing you. Its loving NOT to help your son make dangerous choices by handing him money that he may use for drug use, keep him in your house which is approval of his behavior under your roof, or buying him fancy stuff he can and will sell for drug money? How is turning your back on him by making it harder for him to do these things? It is very hard for us and very loving. Sometimes you must turn away from even a beloved adult child because they need a wake up call and YOU need to stay safe too. A lot of us had to do this. For them. For us. We matter too. In my case, my daughter found going it alone "too hard." She quit, even cigarettes, and these days is into organic food for her and her and her partner's precious baby girl. Will everyone quit? No. But why make using drugs easier? Why give them one dime that could be used to buy drugs? It has to be hard and horrible for them to quit an addictive substance. Love and housing and help is not a motivator for them to quit. Maybe nothing will be. But comfort certainly doesnt motivate. Sure, you love him...but right now he doesnt care and it hasnt helped him change. Nobody should be in an unsafe home. That is your sanctuary. Please try to move on with your own life and let go of sons drama. Dont read his cell phone (dont pay for it either. Seems he uses it for the wrong reasons). Your knowing too much wont stop his behavior and will seriously impact your mental and physical health. Love and light. Remember, you matter too. [/QUOTE]
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