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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 630178" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Lil, don't fall for the excuses. They always have an excuse, a friend, too tired, no jobs out there, no way to get there, overslept, if I only had _______, I could do ___________. But they ALWAYS find a way to do the things they want to do. </p><p></p><p>I'm not saying you should start out being totally hard and relentless. But please realize that he is no longer your precious three year old. He is an adult. </p><p></p><p>Stop giving him pocket money for going out, gas, cigarettes, whatever. Many kids start working at age 16---your son is now 19. He needs to be working at least part time while in school and full time if not.</p><p></p><p>Busy people get into way less trouble, and they are tired at the end of the day. </p><p></p><p>The more we have to do, the more we get done. We all know that. Same for them.</p><p></p><p>You've gotten great advice here. One more thing: keep it simple. You know what is right and what is wrong. Hold him to it. No less.</p><p></p><p>Take care and keep us informed. We care and we will support you, no matter what you decide to do. I just hate to see you and your husband played like I know our difficult children do. We're like babes in the woods and it takes us a really long time to catch up to their stuff. </p><p></p><p>Reading this site will help you get there faster.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 630178, member: 17542"] Lil, don't fall for the excuses. They always have an excuse, a friend, too tired, no jobs out there, no way to get there, overslept, if I only had _______, I could do ___________. But they ALWAYS find a way to do the things they want to do. I'm not saying you should start out being totally hard and relentless. But please realize that he is no longer your precious three year old. He is an adult. Stop giving him pocket money for going out, gas, cigarettes, whatever. Many kids start working at age 16---your son is now 19. He needs to be working at least part time while in school and full time if not. Busy people get into way less trouble, and they are tired at the end of the day. The more we have to do, the more we get done. We all know that. Same for them. You've gotten great advice here. One more thing: keep it simple. You know what is right and what is wrong. Hold him to it. No less. Take care and keep us informed. We care and we will support you, no matter what you decide to do. I just hate to see you and your husband played like I know our difficult children do. We're like babes in the woods and it takes us a really long time to catch up to their stuff. Reading this site will help you get there faster. [/QUOTE]
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