Hi. I'm new here - my first time. I have a 5 yo son who I believe has ODD. He has met with three counselors - none have said as much except the last who told us he had a "defiant" personality. We are meeting again to discuss having him observed in his classroom. I am at my wits end. I am exhausted, short tempered, and feel like I don't even like him. Who says this about their child?? He has meltdowns screaming "I hate you!" hits, kicks, spits at me, my husband, teachers and classmates. We are trying to employ the tools given to us by the therapists to do the "parental intervention" and nothing seems to be working. Has anyone dealt with this? Any and all advice is much appreciated...HELP!