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At the ER again. Backslide for G.F.G
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 638965" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>difficult child seems to be doing relatively okay. Is rather calm and rational and not that tense. Sticks to his story, but is quite clearly lying - and knows that I know he is lying, but makes it clear that he is not willing to talk about it at this point. Does talk about future (yes, I have been fishing a bit) in diverse manner; both short term (tomorrow this or that, next week maybe that), mid term (at Christmas) and longer term (during summer, next season) and really long term (something would be really cool one day) and both very practical level (what do we eat at Monday, about his burn and it maybe hindering getting back) and more abstract and long term plans, goals and dreams.</p><p></p><p>For husband this did hit hard. To be honest he is really freaked out. I think that it hit him first time, that we could really lose difficult child, that maybe we will not get through this and it may not end up being okay one day. Maybe it was because the stuff difficult child burnt was maybe dearer to husband than to difficult child. Mementoes of that son husband can be proud and happy about, the son husband would wish difficult child to be. Also senselessness of difficult child hurting himself on purpose, causing himself real and acute pain, seem to have hit husband only now. Maybe till now he was somehow able to explain to himself that it was some one time stupidity, or difficult child being out of his mind when he did it or something. This time there is no excuse to explain it away.</p><p></p><p>I have gone through those feelings for longer time and I hadn't really understood, that husband hasn't seen it before. He was so shaken that he actually didn't even yell at difficult child or scold him, but tried to explain him how cherished and important he is to us instead. And that is kind of freaky on itself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 638965, member: 14557"] difficult child seems to be doing relatively okay. Is rather calm and rational and not that tense. Sticks to his story, but is quite clearly lying - and knows that I know he is lying, but makes it clear that he is not willing to talk about it at this point. Does talk about future (yes, I have been fishing a bit) in diverse manner; both short term (tomorrow this or that, next week maybe that), mid term (at Christmas) and longer term (during summer, next season) and really long term (something would be really cool one day) and both very practical level (what do we eat at Monday, about his burn and it maybe hindering getting back) and more abstract and long term plans, goals and dreams. For husband this did hit hard. To be honest he is really freaked out. I think that it hit him first time, that we could really lose difficult child, that maybe we will not get through this and it may not end up being okay one day. Maybe it was because the stuff difficult child burnt was maybe dearer to husband than to difficult child. Mementoes of that son husband can be proud and happy about, the son husband would wish difficult child to be. Also senselessness of difficult child hurting himself on purpose, causing himself real and acute pain, seem to have hit husband only now. Maybe till now he was somehow able to explain to himself that it was some one time stupidity, or difficult child being out of his mind when he did it or something. This time there is no excuse to explain it away. I have gone through those feelings for longer time and I hadn't really understood, that husband hasn't seen it before. He was so shaken that he actually didn't even yell at difficult child or scold him, but tried to explain him how cherished and important he is to us instead. And that is kind of freaky on itself. [/QUOTE]
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