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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful parent" data-source="post: 709728" data-attributes="member: 21585"><p>Thank you for your comments. In answer to your question Nancy. We have had him to quite a few doctors. At first they said he had schizophrenia, but now they just say he has had psychotic episodes because of drugs. But he is all over the place and I don't think the psychiatrist really know. We can't get a proper diagnosis. He does respond to medication and was told by a GP that he will need to be on it for the rest of his life. He and his girlfriend use this to try and get money from me. "We need money for his medication and we are actually starving you know." This is what they say to me.</p><p></p><p>He actually sounds like he is not on drugs at the moment. Just really upset, desperate and confused. He told me he is coming to the court case tomorrow and he is going to cause a scene and get arrested so he can be in jail like her, and then he said he will at least get three meals a day. I am afraid if he goes to jail he will be hurt as he is vulnerable due to his mental state.</p><p></p><p>I am wondering if I should give the police the heads up on this, so they can stop him before he does anything to get himself into trouble. Or would this just get him into more trouble. Also I could ring community services and report him as a risk as he is homeless so at least they would have him in their system again and if he does do something and end up in jail we might be able to get him directed to a mental health place instead. I am in Australia and don't know if they even have such places anymore. I believe my son needs long term rehabilitation or at least long term mental health care, as he cant look after himself. As in keep a roof over his head or do the normal things you need to do to survive.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I have a nice life, or we could have if we didn't have this problem. I also have hobbies and help run our business, we have a close relationship with my other two children. And with all of our grandchildren including my problem sons children and ex wife. My younger son also has some issues with pot smoking and has made some wrong life choices, but he keeps a roof over his head and his little boy's and goes about his business dealing with his own stuff, comes and has a yarn with me when things get a bit difficult for him and we brain storm solutions then he goes away and sorts it out. He is actually a good support to me while I am going through this. So is my daughter, she is a rock. </p><p>I know I am an enabler and I know I have to detach. Which is why I have made an appointment to see a counsellor at the end of April. I can't get down to see him before then. I have so many conflicting thoughts about all of this. I need to sort it out in my head. I get angry with my husband as he is old school and when talking to our problem son he always says the wrong things, which can set my son off. My son continuously blames his father for everything. And my sons aggression is mostly directed to my husband. I know we probley weren't perfect parents, and we made lots of mistakes especially with handling my sons mental health issues. But I think we were okay parents. Our other two children say they had a good childhood. We always did our best with what we knew and what we had.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful parent, post: 709728, member: 21585"] Thank you for your comments. In answer to your question Nancy. We have had him to quite a few doctors. At first they said he had schizophrenia, but now they just say he has had psychotic episodes because of drugs. But he is all over the place and I don't think the psychiatrist really know. We can't get a proper diagnosis. He does respond to medication and was told by a GP that he will need to be on it for the rest of his life. He and his girlfriend use this to try and get money from me. "We need money for his medication and we are actually starving you know." This is what they say to me. He actually sounds like he is not on drugs at the moment. Just really upset, desperate and confused. He told me he is coming to the court case tomorrow and he is going to cause a scene and get arrested so he can be in jail like her, and then he said he will at least get three meals a day. I am afraid if he goes to jail he will be hurt as he is vulnerable due to his mental state. I am wondering if I should give the police the heads up on this, so they can stop him before he does anything to get himself into trouble. Or would this just get him into more trouble. Also I could ring community services and report him as a risk as he is homeless so at least they would have him in their system again and if he does do something and end up in jail we might be able to get him directed to a mental health place instead. I am in Australia and don't know if they even have such places anymore. I believe my son needs long term rehabilitation or at least long term mental health care, as he cant look after himself. As in keep a roof over his head or do the normal things you need to do to survive. My husband and I have a nice life, or we could have if we didn't have this problem. I also have hobbies and help run our business, we have a close relationship with my other two children. And with all of our grandchildren including my problem sons children and ex wife. My younger son also has some issues with pot smoking and has made some wrong life choices, but he keeps a roof over his head and his little boy's and goes about his business dealing with his own stuff, comes and has a yarn with me when things get a bit difficult for him and we brain storm solutions then he goes away and sorts it out. He is actually a good support to me while I am going through this. So is my daughter, she is a rock. I know I am an enabler and I know I have to detach. Which is why I have made an appointment to see a counsellor at the end of April. I can't get down to see him before then. I have so many conflicting thoughts about all of this. I need to sort it out in my head. I get angry with my husband as he is old school and when talking to our problem son he always says the wrong things, which can set my son off. My son continuously blames his father for everything. And my sons aggression is mostly directed to my husband. I know we probley weren't perfect parents, and we made lots of mistakes especially with handling my sons mental health issues. But I think we were okay parents. Our other two children say they had a good childhood. We always did our best with what we knew and what we had. [/QUOTE]
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