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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758274" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Hopeful</p><p></p><p>Welcome back.</p><p></p><p>I looked back at this old thread and I read over my post of 3 years ago. I was sad to see that within a 15 months of posting, our own situation would become way, way worse. What happened, I won't describe, except to say this. Due to my own stress and fear, I came to real crisis in response to my own son's behavior and choices, and my own enmeshment in his life and inability to give priority to myself.</p><p></p><p>I was forced to change. Almost completely I limited contact with my son. I am sad to say that it took me so long to see that I could not stay so engaged with my son and his life. </p><p></p><p>In 2 years since hitting bottom, I have again had contact with my son, and he has even for some time lived in a home I own. But every time he comes closer in to me, I suffer. I feel I don't have resources in myself. I feel literally destroyed by conflict. What has shifted is I am now fully seeing that the larger problem is in me. And with that I have the potential to change myself. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes change must involve more than physical boundaries. </p><p></p><p>You have not posted about what is going on now with you and in your life.. I encourage you to do so. I believe that you and I and all of us deserve inner tranquility and lives and homes that are as conflict-free and worry-free as possible. </p><p></p><p>I support you. I am glad you've come back to post. Please give us more information so that we can support you more powerfully. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758274, member: 18958"] Dear Hopeful Welcome back. I looked back at this old thread and I read over my post of 3 years ago. I was sad to see that within a 15 months of posting, our own situation would become way, way worse. What happened, I won't describe, except to say this. Due to my own stress and fear, I came to real crisis in response to my own son's behavior and choices, and my own enmeshment in his life and inability to give priority to myself. I was forced to change. Almost completely I limited contact with my son. I am sad to say that it took me so long to see that I could not stay so engaged with my son and his life. In 2 years since hitting bottom, I have again had contact with my son, and he has even for some time lived in a home I own. But every time he comes closer in to me, I suffer. I feel I don't have resources in myself. I feel literally destroyed by conflict. What has shifted is I am now fully seeing that the larger problem is in me. And with that I have the potential to change myself. Sometimes change must involve more than physical boundaries. You have not posted about what is going on now with you and in your life.. I encourage you to do so. I believe that you and I and all of us deserve inner tranquility and lives and homes that are as conflict-free and worry-free as possible. I support you. I am glad you've come back to post. Please give us more information so that we can support you more powerfully. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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