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<blockquote data-quote="Roxona" data-source="post: 682354" data-attributes="member: 19076"><p>I can see this happening in the teenage years. J wouldn't have anything to do with me "mostly" for years once he hit his teens. He wouldn't eat dinner with me or got to the movies, and really anything unless I made him. He'd stay in his room and hardly ever come out. He never liked to be touched, even when he was a toddler. He was diagnosed with Asperger's when he was 5 or 6, so the doctors attributed it to that. I was not a permissive parent, but I wasn't a nagger either. Mentally I had my A basket for emergencies and my B basket for everything. If it wasn't an A basket type of thing, I didn't worry about it much. It was just the two of us, so I had a live and let live approach to things. When he was older and could go out, he always made his curfews, although he hardly ever went out. He didn't really get into any trouble until he was 18, and that's when all hell broke loose. Two years later, things are getting better every day, and he comes to me more and more to talk, but eating with me and hugs are still hard to come by.</p><p></p><p>SS10, who has been diagnosed with attachment disorder is so much different. He is non-compliant with every fiber in his body. Over three years ago we put rules into effect, and to this day he will not obey them. He just says he's sorry and tries to walk away when we engage him on it, or he'll sit down and stare off into space because he's bored and doesn't want to listen to what we have to say. He rejects what we tell him and doesn't seem to care. The thing that hangs me up on this diagnosis is that he does want to be touched. He'd ooze all over us, if we let him, but it's not appropriate. It's smothering. So, at the end of the day I don't know if the diagnosis is right. He has ADHS for sure...anxiety for sure...an emotional growth of 3 years...most likely, but AD? I don't know. Guess we'll find out when the new evaluation is done at Children's.</p><p></p><p>KSM, when did your girls start acting this way. Have they always been distant, or is this new?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Roxona, post: 682354, member: 19076"] I can see this happening in the teenage years. J wouldn't have anything to do with me "mostly" for years once he hit his teens. He wouldn't eat dinner with me or got to the movies, and really anything unless I made him. He'd stay in his room and hardly ever come out. He never liked to be touched, even when he was a toddler. He was diagnosed with Asperger's when he was 5 or 6, so the doctors attributed it to that. I was not a permissive parent, but I wasn't a nagger either. Mentally I had my A basket for emergencies and my B basket for everything. If it wasn't an A basket type of thing, I didn't worry about it much. It was just the two of us, so I had a live and let live approach to things. When he was older and could go out, he always made his curfews, although he hardly ever went out. He didn't really get into any trouble until he was 18, and that's when all hell broke loose. Two years later, things are getting better every day, and he comes to me more and more to talk, but eating with me and hugs are still hard to come by. SS10, who has been diagnosed with attachment disorder is so much different. He is non-compliant with every fiber in his body. Over three years ago we put rules into effect, and to this day he will not obey them. He just says he's sorry and tries to walk away when we engage him on it, or he'll sit down and stare off into space because he's bored and doesn't want to listen to what we have to say. He rejects what we tell him and doesn't seem to care. The thing that hangs me up on this diagnosis is that he does want to be touched. He'd ooze all over us, if we let him, but it's not appropriate. It's smothering. So, at the end of the day I don't know if the diagnosis is right. He has ADHS for sure...anxiety for sure...an emotional growth of 3 years...most likely, but AD? I don't know. Guess we'll find out when the new evaluation is done at Children's. KSM, when did your girls start acting this way. Have they always been distant, or is this new? [/QUOTE]
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