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<blockquote data-quote="4now" data-source="post: 703493" data-attributes="member: 17356"><p>Well my sister was served with a summons for eviction last week and now I am receiving messenger texts from her friend telling me how reprehensible I am that I would kick my sister to the curb like that. Of course she hasn't seen my sister in over 15 years and only knows what my sister tells her but it still makes me feel bad about the situation. I feel like we have no choice but to evict and we have tried to work things out but can't help someone who doesn't accept responsibility.</p><p></p><p>My sister is like my D.C. She is always the victim and accepts no responsibility for her actions in what led up to this eviction. I have helped my entire family and have just recently realized that I have no value to them unless they are getting something, money, housing, help of some kind. I don't count to them (brother, sister, nephew) unless they need something. If I dare say no I am a heartless witch with no empathy and no morals. My husband and I have taken in every member of my family over the years due to different circumstances. But now that we say no, we are heartless no good people. It is very apparent that I have never been any more than a soft place to land. Realizing that just hurts, but I have decided to place my focus and attention to the people in my life who value their relationship with me because of who I am, rather than what I can provide.</p><p></p><p>My parents have been gone for a long time. Both died fairly young due to lifestyle choices like drinking and smoking and now watching by sister, brother and nephew choosing the same has been heartbreaking. I have watched helplessly while they make bad decisions, but they all expect me to be the one who rescues them from the consequences of their actions. Now that I am standing up for myself, they are angry. None of them have been self supporting or have saved anything that they've earned and are resentful because my husband and I have worked hard and saved our money toward tangible property instead of spending it on drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. </p><p></p><p>When my dad died almost 17 years ago he left a small rundown house and no money having been on disability for years after being unable to work. Neither my older sister nor brother wanted to be executors or be responsible for dealing with estate matters. Dad had taken out a reverse mortgage on his house to live on and at his death he owed more than we were able to get because of the lack of updates and size of the property. My brother had lived at home his whole life except when he was in jail, and thought he should get the house. Problem was that he had all worked under the table and never filed taxes and couldn't get a loan</p><p></p><p>My sister had her own place plus a rental property her husbands mother gave them and wanted nothing to do with any of the estate. Our options were to sell it for less than owed, let the bank repossess the house or One of us purchase the property for the loan amount. Of course I was the only one financially able and willing to purchase the property. Now 17 years later history is being rewritten and I stole their inheritance. My husband and I were also the only ones that stepped up and payed for my Dad's funeral also. But now my sister is claiming she paid for his funeral. I'm so tired of the lies, drama and hatefulness. My sister is now threatening to sue me for stealing her share of the inheritance. Apparently I was supposed to take all the financial risks, buy, fix up the property and then when I sold it divvy up the proceeds even though she had nothing to do with the property.</p><p> </p><p>I am so tired of this stuff and it boggles my mind how any sane person could say such things let alone believe them.</p><p></p><p>Sorry for the long rant but my life feels like I've only been valuable if I can be used and manipulated. Thank God for my loving husband and my youngest son and family. I am blessed to have them lovingly and faithfully in my life with normal and stable relationships. I need to just spend my time and efforts on the people who truly want a relationship with me and not want me for whatever they can gain from me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="4now, post: 703493, member: 17356"] Well my sister was served with a summons for eviction last week and now I am receiving messenger texts from her friend telling me how reprehensible I am that I would kick my sister to the curb like that. Of course she hasn't seen my sister in over 15 years and only knows what my sister tells her but it still makes me feel bad about the situation. I feel like we have no choice but to evict and we have tried to work things out but can't help someone who doesn't accept responsibility. My sister is like my D.C. She is always the victim and accepts no responsibility for her actions in what led up to this eviction. I have helped my entire family and have just recently realized that I have no value to them unless they are getting something, money, housing, help of some kind. I don't count to them (brother, sister, nephew) unless they need something. If I dare say no I am a heartless witch with no empathy and no morals. My husband and I have taken in every member of my family over the years due to different circumstances. But now that we say no, we are heartless no good people. It is very apparent that I have never been any more than a soft place to land. Realizing that just hurts, but I have decided to place my focus and attention to the people in my life who value their relationship with me because of who I am, rather than what I can provide. My parents have been gone for a long time. Both died fairly young due to lifestyle choices like drinking and smoking and now watching by sister, brother and nephew choosing the same has been heartbreaking. I have watched helplessly while they make bad decisions, but they all expect me to be the one who rescues them from the consequences of their actions. Now that I am standing up for myself, they are angry. None of them have been self supporting or have saved anything that they've earned and are resentful because my husband and I have worked hard and saved our money toward tangible property instead of spending it on drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. When my dad died almost 17 years ago he left a small rundown house and no money having been on disability for years after being unable to work. Neither my older sister nor brother wanted to be executors or be responsible for dealing with estate matters. Dad had taken out a reverse mortgage on his house to live on and at his death he owed more than we were able to get because of the lack of updates and size of the property. My brother had lived at home his whole life except when he was in jail, and thought he should get the house. Problem was that he had all worked under the table and never filed taxes and couldn't get a loan My sister had her own place plus a rental property her husbands mother gave them and wanted nothing to do with any of the estate. Our options were to sell it for less than owed, let the bank repossess the house or One of us purchase the property for the loan amount. Of course I was the only one financially able and willing to purchase the property. Now 17 years later history is being rewritten and I stole their inheritance. My husband and I were also the only ones that stepped up and payed for my Dad's funeral also. But now my sister is claiming she paid for his funeral. I'm so tired of the lies, drama and hatefulness. My sister is now threatening to sue me for stealing her share of the inheritance. Apparently I was supposed to take all the financial risks, buy, fix up the property and then when I sold it divvy up the proceeds even though she had nothing to do with the property. I am so tired of this stuff and it boggles my mind how any sane person could say such things let alone believe them. Sorry for the long rant but my life feels like I've only been valuable if I can be used and manipulated. Thank God for my loving husband and my youngest son and family. I am blessed to have them lovingly and faithfully in my life with normal and stable relationships. I need to just spend my time and efforts on the people who truly want a relationship with me and not want me for whatever they can gain from me. [/QUOTE]
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