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<blockquote data-quote="BonnieJean" data-source="post: 9296" data-attributes="member: 851"><p>Okay, from what little I've been told about cutting, most instance it's not about the attention that you might think. A family member who did this told me it was to release pain that was built up inside. Unfortunately she's resorted to tattoos, ALOT of them! She's now a new mom and by the way, she has BiPolar (BP) and is back on medications. But her cutting lasted for a few years, it was something she seemed to have started out of the blue and I don't even know when it stopped. I do know that she has terrible scars on her arms. </p><p></p><p>Now, easy child boy had his first girlfriend last year and he fell hard for her. But then one day she must have showed him her tummy area where she cut. She cut various places, again not only on the wrists. easy child boy had a difficult time of this. For a few days I could tell something was bothering him, he was "different", hard to explain. But anyways, when I asked him how thing with the girlfriend were going he broke down crying and told me. He said "Mom, I can barely handle my own stuff, how can I handle hers too?" I said "You can't!" And told him that he has to tell her. This was effecting every part of his living. Eventually after a couple of weeks he broke up with her. He began not wanting to go to school or wanting to be dropped off at a different door at school to avoid her, even different times where he was almost always late. He just didn't know how to cope. I know this young girl definitely had problems of her own. She came from a family where I learned that the father was in a car accident some time before easy child boy met the difficult child. The father got hit by a drunk driver, permanently injuring his leg, making it almost impossible to work for a very long time. He wouldn't even let her come to PCs place, even with our promise that we would take her back and forth. I can't imagine how paranoid he is about letting her travel on the school bus each day.</p><p></p><p>Attention is not the word I would use for cutters, but some might. I know someone else who was a victim of CHSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) who still cuts to this day. She's had to get stitches for her cuts at least once out of the almost hundreds of times she's done it. The scars she will carry around forever, inside and out, unfortunately.</p><p></p><p>I dunno, therapy through talking if you can find the right therapist might work. ~SHRUGS~ I've thought about suicide myself more than once, but after talking to someone, more than a whole bunch of sessions, I was okay. Life is so tough for our kids and there's so many new things coming up that whether we're parents/educators/MH Workers, we struggle to educate ourselves in time to help those who need it the most. And in the end, sometimes I think, we end up needing more help than those we tried to help. Confusing I know!</p><p></p><p>BonnieJean</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BonnieJean, post: 9296, member: 851"] Okay, from what little I've been told about cutting, most instance it's not about the attention that you might think. A family member who did this told me it was to release pain that was built up inside. Unfortunately she's resorted to tattoos, ALOT of them! She's now a new mom and by the way, she has BiPolar (BP) and is back on medications. But her cutting lasted for a few years, it was something she seemed to have started out of the blue and I don't even know when it stopped. I do know that she has terrible scars on her arms. Now, easy child boy had his first girlfriend last year and he fell hard for her. But then one day she must have showed him her tummy area where she cut. She cut various places, again not only on the wrists. easy child boy had a difficult time of this. For a few days I could tell something was bothering him, he was "different", hard to explain. But anyways, when I asked him how thing with the girlfriend were going he broke down crying and told me. He said "Mom, I can barely handle my own stuff, how can I handle hers too?" I said "You can't!" And told him that he has to tell her. This was effecting every part of his living. Eventually after a couple of weeks he broke up with her. He began not wanting to go to school or wanting to be dropped off at a different door at school to avoid her, even different times where he was almost always late. He just didn't know how to cope. I know this young girl definitely had problems of her own. She came from a family where I learned that the father was in a car accident some time before easy child boy met the difficult child. The father got hit by a drunk driver, permanently injuring his leg, making it almost impossible to work for a very long time. He wouldn't even let her come to PCs place, even with our promise that we would take her back and forth. I can't imagine how paranoid he is about letting her travel on the school bus each day. Attention is not the word I would use for cutters, but some might. I know someone else who was a victim of CHSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) who still cuts to this day. She's had to get stitches for her cuts at least once out of the almost hundreds of times she's done it. The scars she will carry around forever, inside and out, unfortunately. I dunno, therapy through talking if you can find the right therapist might work. ~SHRUGS~ I've thought about suicide myself more than once, but after talking to someone, more than a whole bunch of sessions, I was okay. Life is so tough for our kids and there's so many new things coming up that whether we're parents/educators/MH Workers, we struggle to educate ourselves in time to help those who need it the most. And in the end, sometimes I think, we end up needing more help than those we tried to help. Confusing I know! BonnieJean [/QUOTE]
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