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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 657862" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>This is a very big deal in our personal growth. COM writes a lot about this. Recognition is step one. Step two is recognizing triggers, recognizing these behaviors just at the moment that you start to engage in them. I found that learning meditation helped a lot with that. It put sort of a "pause" button between my emotional reaction and engaging in a behavior that has been very helpful. I'm sure there are other ways of seeing too. Learning to minimize those uglier characteristics so that you can like yourself wholly is a wonderful key to good mental health.</p><p></p><p>I'll say as an aside that one of the things I have noticed in my 18 months on this forum is that newcomers spend a LOT of time writing about the behaviors of their Difficult Child's..."he did this and I said that and I did this and he said that and why why why" and when they members start to write about their own internal experience, their own goals, their own shortcomings...that is when they start to heal and become whole again. My own observation, perhaps inaccurate.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 657862, member: 17269"] This is a very big deal in our personal growth. COM writes a lot about this. Recognition is step one. Step two is recognizing triggers, recognizing these behaviors just at the moment that you start to engage in them. I found that learning meditation helped a lot with that. It put sort of a "pause" button between my emotional reaction and engaging in a behavior that has been very helpful. I'm sure there are other ways of seeing too. Learning to minimize those uglier characteristics so that you can like yourself wholly is a wonderful key to good mental health. I'll say as an aside that one of the things I have noticed in my 18 months on this forum is that newcomers spend a LOT of time writing about the behaviors of their Difficult Child's..."he did this and I said that and I did this and he said that and why why why" and when they members start to write about their own internal experience, their own goals, their own shortcomings...that is when they start to heal and become whole again. My own observation, perhaps inaccurate. Echo [/QUOTE]
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