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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657945" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm starting to wonder if Narcissistic is the new (and soon to be replaced) buzzword for a selfish, mean person.</p><p></p><p>The only thing I'm sure of is that we all have VALID memories of abuse, even if some family members try to tell us we are lying (don't fall for that). Not all siblings experience abuse from the mean, selfish mother and usually mean, selfish mother makes sure her abuse, especially verbal, is done to you where nobody can hear it but the two of you so she can gaslight the others.</p><p></p><p>Hold your head up high. None of us deserved that nor do our own kids. We started out being kids, rejected by our own mothers. That caused us problems in life. Some of us are getting help. Some of us denied it (guilty here) for a long time. But we can't forever.</p><p></p><p>Many of us did NOT treat our adult children like we were treated.</p><p></p><p>And when our own family went wrong, if it did?</p><p></p><p>Heredity is beginning to be shown to have a part in DNA temperament.</p><p></p><p>Unless we repeated the abuse cycle, and I doubt we did, there is no fault here. We can not control the genes tossed at our children. If we adopted, they ahve DNA thrown at them too.</p><p></p><p>We are survivors. We can do this life. We can do it with gusto.</p><p></p><p>People live long lives these days. Even us seniors have a long time to enjoy our golden years. LET'S DO IT and let go the guilt that should be on those who will never admit they should feel it. Do you know that you can get Post Traumatic Stress Disorder fro constant verbal abuse. I know it because I have it.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657945, member: 1550"] I'm starting to wonder if Narcissistic is the new (and soon to be replaced) buzzword for a selfish, mean person. The only thing I'm sure of is that we all have VALID memories of abuse, even if some family members try to tell us we are lying (don't fall for that). Not all siblings experience abuse from the mean, selfish mother and usually mean, selfish mother makes sure her abuse, especially verbal, is done to you where nobody can hear it but the two of you so she can gaslight the others. Hold your head up high. None of us deserved that nor do our own kids. We started out being kids, rejected by our own mothers. That caused us problems in life. Some of us are getting help. Some of us denied it (guilty here) for a long time. But we can't forever. Many of us did NOT treat our adult children like we were treated. And when our own family went wrong, if it did? Heredity is beginning to be shown to have a part in DNA temperament. Unless we repeated the abuse cycle, and I doubt we did, there is no fault here. We can not control the genes tossed at our children. If we adopted, they ahve DNA thrown at them too. We are survivors. We can do this life. We can do it with gusto. People live long lives these days. Even us seniors have a long time to enjoy our golden years. LET'S DO IT and let go the guilt that should be on those who will never admit they should feel it. Do you know that you can get Post Traumatic Stress Disorder fro constant verbal abuse. I know it because I have it. Hugs to all. [/QUOTE]
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