Woofens
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Friday morning, I got up and went into the bathroom. I could hear that difficult child was awake, could him him whispering. I called out to him and got no response so when I finished in the bathroom I went to his bedroom door and spoke to him again. He didn't answer, so I went and sat on the edge of his bed he was whispering around his thumb in his mouth (can't break that habit) and was completely hidden under the blanket. I pulled the blanket down and said hey, its time to get up for school. Without even opening his eyes, he yelled, "I'm not going to school". I started to yell back, and then stopped and thought about what I had read the night before in The Explosive Child". I know I didn't do it exactly following the steps in the book, but I asked him why he didn't want to go... and turns out there was music class Friday afternoon, and they were doing something in music he felt would embarrass him. I told him I would call the school and talk to them about him not having to participate (this wasn't something that would have been used as a grade) and he wasn't comfortable with that. He told me that if I wrote notes to the teacher and principal, that would be good. He helped me write the notes (told me what he wanted them to know) and I added some stuff at the bottoms. I offered to put them in his backpack, but he wanted to carry them. He got dressed, brushed teeth etc, and even packed his own lunch. We have a rule that if they want to take their lunch they have to tell me the night before so I'm not running around like a chicken with my head cut off in the morning. If they forget to tell me the night before, they have to pack their lunch in the AM (help from me if necessary) if they have time before we have to leave for the bus. He carried his letters to the teacher and principal, and got on the bus just like a easy child.
I know that we will still have bad days, I know that we are at the very beginning of this journey into why he acts the way he does. The feeling of accomplishment in getting him on the bus with out argument was so satisfying. WOO HOO! LOL
I also got a 2nd copy of The Explosive Child and took a copy to the school for the principal and teachers. So that they have some idea what I"m attempting here at home, and why I told him that he didn't have to participate in the activity in music that day. The principal was totally onboard with the whole thing. If it had been something important, I would have not told him he didn't have to do it, but all we are talking about is riding a broomstick around the room while singing Halloween songs. If he was so worried about being embarrassed by that, I didn't see any reason to force him to do it.
I also went and signed up for a cell phone with a contract (sigh.. I hate anything but prepaid since we have no service where we live and it seems like a waste of money) but I got a Palm Centra with a great video camera with sound built in, and when I realized everything that the phone could do, I fell in love with it. I've got my phone, a camcorder, and a good appointment calendar in one, and it isn't much bigger that the flip phone I was carrying. I have a deep aversion to carrying a purse, so I needed something that would fit in my jeans pocket. This is a bit bigger than I would have liked, but still fits in my pocket. Also has a word document feature so that I don't have to carry the notebook I have been to document his mood swings and rages.. I can input it into the phone and transfer it to the easy child here at home and print it out. Ok... most of you already know what a Palm will do LOL but I had no idea. Had to sign a 2 year contract, but I went through AT&T, so that at least the unused minutes will roll over for a year. I'm also afraid the web access from the phone will become addictive, and I'll end up keeping the extra $30 a month subscription to the web service. Just have to wait and see what I can afford.... I lose difficult child D's child support this month since he is turning 18.
Today has been a good day so far
Hugs,
Jan
I know that we will still have bad days, I know that we are at the very beginning of this journey into why he acts the way he does. The feeling of accomplishment in getting him on the bus with out argument was so satisfying. WOO HOO! LOL
I also got a 2nd copy of The Explosive Child and took a copy to the school for the principal and teachers. So that they have some idea what I"m attempting here at home, and why I told him that he didn't have to participate in the activity in music that day. The principal was totally onboard with the whole thing. If it had been something important, I would have not told him he didn't have to do it, but all we are talking about is riding a broomstick around the room while singing Halloween songs. If he was so worried about being embarrassed by that, I didn't see any reason to force him to do it.
I also went and signed up for a cell phone with a contract (sigh.. I hate anything but prepaid since we have no service where we live and it seems like a waste of money) but I got a Palm Centra with a great video camera with sound built in, and when I realized everything that the phone could do, I fell in love with it. I've got my phone, a camcorder, and a good appointment calendar in one, and it isn't much bigger that the flip phone I was carrying. I have a deep aversion to carrying a purse, so I needed something that would fit in my jeans pocket. This is a bit bigger than I would have liked, but still fits in my pocket. Also has a word document feature so that I don't have to carry the notebook I have been to document his mood swings and rages.. I can input it into the phone and transfer it to the easy child here at home and print it out. Ok... most of you already know what a Palm will do LOL but I had no idea. Had to sign a 2 year contract, but I went through AT&T, so that at least the unused minutes will roll over for a year. I'm also afraid the web access from the phone will become addictive, and I'll end up keeping the extra $30 a month subscription to the web service. Just have to wait and see what I can afford.... I lose difficult child D's child support this month since he is turning 18.
Today has been a good day so far
Hugs,
Jan