So I've had it with harassing calls from my estranged mother and estranged difficult child bro. Both have been calling incessently, from their own numbers, from peoples cell numbers, blocking numbers so they can hope to catch me unaware. Leaving long messages on my machine varying from kissing up, to demanding "thoughtfulness" from me to keep them in the loop re: bio dads court case (Hello! Call the detective! DOH!), to gloating how they are trying to get involved as to be witnesses in the trial (Say huh? How exactly? Couldn't be bothered to find out although investigator did say my mother was interviewed). I had it tonight. Just had it. I'd spent last night in tears from the non stop messages on the phone (I NEVER answer the calls). So tonight I logged into my phone company account, got a online representative and arranged a new unpublished phone number. It will go into effect Aug. 29. I'm being very select about who gets the number and each person has been or will be asked to not pass it along to anybody under any circumstances. I feel a freedom coming on the 29th. The phone ringing has been enough to cause great anxiety even before I see the call display to know who is calling. So even innocent callers, just the ring makes my blood pressure rise and anxiety peak. No more. And no guilt. My next "break away" may need to be facebook. GFGbro has been blocked since Christmas on my facebook. So 2 nights ago he created a new account so he could send me a private message, again demanding to know "what have I ever done to you" (Holy SMOKES, not worth the LENGTHY time to list the things or even to summarize). My response to his long blast of me was "Please refrain from telephone, emailing, facebooking or any other form of communication as it now constitutes harassment". I then blocked his new facebook account. If this continues, I'll simply quite facebook. I love the contact to those I do care about, most are real life family/friends, with the addition of a few members here. I'd hate to not have that but it isn't worth it if it means contact from such toxic people such as difficult child bro. (Who I recently discovered is in direct contact with bio father at this time) I love that when I called family to give them my new number, first thing each said was "if gfgbro calls for the number, we're NOT giving it to him". Phew! Thank goodness a few sane members of family exist who care enough to understand why I have to do this. I feel a small bit liberated. I just loathe having to call the places that MUST have my new number, to fill them in on it. ugh! But it will be worth it in the long run. Feeling oddly proud of this baby step.