happymomof2
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Hi everyone, it's been a long time since I have posted here. The struggles with difficult child had settled somewhat. Reared it's ugly head a few times here and there but wasn't an everyday issue.
Last few months he has been smoking pot and drinking. He got suspended again on his birthday because he went to school high. They were going to place him in an alternative school but we decided against it because he only had 19 days of school left and is trying to get into the Florida Youth Challange Academy. All of our paperwork is in and now we are waiting for an interview.
FYCA has 200 openings and 500 kids trying to get in so we aren't even sure if he will get in, if he does get in I don't even know if he will stay in. They have to want to go and stay, no one makes them. Once in after 2 weeks he gets 1 - 5 min. phone call a week, then they have one family day where the family goes to visit. They get 2 days to come home but not consecutive. The total program last 6 months and with any luck they end up with there highschool diploma or GED. It is at a military camp nearby our home.
He is swearing up and down he hasn't smoked pot in over a week. If he gets accepted into the program the first day they give everyone p test. If there dirty they won't take them. I think they can re-apply to get in for the next session, not sure.
Last night after husband, easy child and I went to bed he left with his girlfriend. They went to a party and he got drunk. He is still having anger issues and when they got home about 5:30 this morning he was acting out because his girlfriend now wants to leave him. She is afraid of him and I don't blame her. I am afraid of him and for him. He was talking a bunch of smack this morning while he was drunk about harming her and her friends if she leaves him. Most of his "friends" don't want to hang out with him anymore they have labled him "crazy". Don't blame them either, he went to a party about a month ago and kicked a guy in the face because the guy hit his girlfriend. I can understand taking up for your girlfriend but kicking someone in the face????
I called work and told them I wouldn't be there today. husband hung around until difficult child passed out then went to work. Told him to keep his cell phone nearby.
Now I am sitting her worried and stressed about when difficult child wakes up and where this will go from there.
One of my sisters told me to have him emancipated and toss him out - she is very loving and supportive so I don't mean to say she said that flipantly. My mom heart can't throw him out on the street with no job, no money and no place to go. He is now 17. I am worried sick about him and what this is doing to all of us.
Last time I took him to a counselor she promptly told me there is no medication for "anger". He has seen numerous counselors over the years. I am sure they helped a little but he is the one that has to gain control over his anger.
Not looking for anyone to fix this problem, guess I just need some hugs at this point.
Thanks for listening
Last few months he has been smoking pot and drinking. He got suspended again on his birthday because he went to school high. They were going to place him in an alternative school but we decided against it because he only had 19 days of school left and is trying to get into the Florida Youth Challange Academy. All of our paperwork is in and now we are waiting for an interview.
FYCA has 200 openings and 500 kids trying to get in so we aren't even sure if he will get in, if he does get in I don't even know if he will stay in. They have to want to go and stay, no one makes them. Once in after 2 weeks he gets 1 - 5 min. phone call a week, then they have one family day where the family goes to visit. They get 2 days to come home but not consecutive. The total program last 6 months and with any luck they end up with there highschool diploma or GED. It is at a military camp nearby our home.
He is swearing up and down he hasn't smoked pot in over a week. If he gets accepted into the program the first day they give everyone p test. If there dirty they won't take them. I think they can re-apply to get in for the next session, not sure.
Last night after husband, easy child and I went to bed he left with his girlfriend. They went to a party and he got drunk. He is still having anger issues and when they got home about 5:30 this morning he was acting out because his girlfriend now wants to leave him. She is afraid of him and I don't blame her. I am afraid of him and for him. He was talking a bunch of smack this morning while he was drunk about harming her and her friends if she leaves him. Most of his "friends" don't want to hang out with him anymore they have labled him "crazy". Don't blame them either, he went to a party about a month ago and kicked a guy in the face because the guy hit his girlfriend. I can understand taking up for your girlfriend but kicking someone in the face????
I called work and told them I wouldn't be there today. husband hung around until difficult child passed out then went to work. Told him to keep his cell phone nearby.
Now I am sitting her worried and stressed about when difficult child wakes up and where this will go from there.
One of my sisters told me to have him emancipated and toss him out - she is very loving and supportive so I don't mean to say she said that flipantly. My mom heart can't throw him out on the street with no job, no money and no place to go. He is now 17. I am worried sick about him and what this is doing to all of us.
Last time I took him to a counselor she promptly told me there is no medication for "anger". He has seen numerous counselors over the years. I am sure they helped a little but he is the one that has to gain control over his anger.
Not looking for anyone to fix this problem, guess I just need some hugs at this point.
Thanks for listening