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<blockquote data-quote="LoveTempered" data-source="post: 762159" data-attributes="member: 28752"><p>Hi. In regard to your son and his dad...I am the child of divorced parents and my dad was often not very nice. HIs behavior definitely hurt. It was worse when my mom used our pain as a proxy for her resentment of him (Not saying you are doing this, just that my mom did.). His second wife, my stepmother would disavow his actions to us but who knows what was really going on. It was a big mess that ultimately had little to do with the kids.</p><p></p><p>It is painful to have to accept rejection from a parent but we grew up and eventually understood that it was about him and not us. I had a few multi-year gaps in my contact with him because I had to put a boundary around my heart and take breaks from the crazy. That saying about hurt people hurting people is true based on my experience. I have met many of those people and I try not to be one because of this experience with my dad. Not sure if that helps but it is the flip side of the pain. Blessings!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LoveTempered, post: 762159, member: 28752"] Hi. In regard to your son and his dad...I am the child of divorced parents and my dad was often not very nice. HIs behavior definitely hurt. It was worse when my mom used our pain as a proxy for her resentment of him (Not saying you are doing this, just that my mom did.). His second wife, my stepmother would disavow his actions to us but who knows what was really going on. It was a big mess that ultimately had little to do with the kids. It is painful to have to accept rejection from a parent but we grew up and eventually understood that it was about him and not us. I had a few multi-year gaps in my contact with him because I had to put a boundary around my heart and take breaks from the crazy. That saying about hurt people hurting people is true based on my experience. I have met many of those people and I try not to be one because of this experience with my dad. Not sure if that helps but it is the flip side of the pain. Blessings! [/QUOTE]
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