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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 761832" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi pasajes. It's been many years. I have thought about you and hoped you were well. I am sorry for the horrific accident, and so happy you have found happiness. I will put in my two cents.</p><p></p><p>With 6 children, this mother is receiving cash and food stamps for herself and the 6 children. I am uncertain how much that would be but I am guessing at least $2000, but that is just a guess. That may even be her motivation to keep having children, because each child generates additional cash. There are programs to assist mothers like this to become educated and receive job training. Something is going on so as to either prevent this mother from functioning or she is unmotivated to do so, or both.</p><p></p><p>This cannot be solved by more cash. It sounds to me that the children are at risk in this family, or worse, they're cash cows and little more. Shoring up this situation can only contribute to the children's greater suffering.</p><p></p><p>While it's a good thing that your son is working for the temp agency, shoring up this dysfunctional situation seems to me to be a "finger in a dyke" situation. </p><p></p><p>None of this computes, in terms of looking at it logically. The mother has cash coming in. Your son is bringing in cash. Where's the cash? Food stamps alone would be enough to feed the group. Are they selling the food stamps?</p><p></p><p>My instincts would say "stay away" to not get involved with this unit of people. If your son calls you directly that is another matter.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I think you are worth protecting. I think your tranquility and relationship are worth protecting. I think it was a healthy thing to draw the line when your son became violent and it came so close to real peril. I think it was the best possible thing you could do, when you had the accident, to circle the wagons.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you came back to us.</p><p></p><p>Love, Copa</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 761832, member: 18958"] Hi pasajes. It's been many years. I have thought about you and hoped you were well. I am sorry for the horrific accident, and so happy you have found happiness. I will put in my two cents. With 6 children, this mother is receiving cash and food stamps for herself and the 6 children. I am uncertain how much that would be but I am guessing at least $2000, but that is just a guess. That may even be her motivation to keep having children, because each child generates additional cash. There are programs to assist mothers like this to become educated and receive job training. Something is going on so as to either prevent this mother from functioning or she is unmotivated to do so, or both. This cannot be solved by more cash. It sounds to me that the children are at risk in this family, or worse, they're cash cows and little more. Shoring up this situation can only contribute to the children's greater suffering. While it's a good thing that your son is working for the temp agency, shoring up this dysfunctional situation seems to me to be a "finger in a dyke" situation. None of this computes, in terms of looking at it logically. The mother has cash coming in. Your son is bringing in cash. Where's the cash? Food stamps alone would be enough to feed the group. Are they selling the food stamps? My instincts would say "stay away" to not get involved with this unit of people. If your son calls you directly that is another matter. Finally, I think you are worth protecting. I think your tranquility and relationship are worth protecting. I think it was a healthy thing to draw the line when your son became violent and it came so close to real peril. I think it was the best possible thing you could do, when you had the accident, to circle the wagons. I am glad you came back to us. Love, Copa [/QUOTE]
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