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<blockquote data-quote="MissLulu" data-source="post: 760281" data-attributes="member: 24721"><p>JayPee, I'm sorry you find yourself here. I can empathise, believe me. We know the right thing to do is to step back and not to enable, but sometimes that is hard. I think Busy is right. Sometimes physical distance can be the answer. I'm happiest when my Difficult Child is far away from me. I feel awful saying that, but it's the truth. I don't know what your situation is, but perhaps a move would be good. </p><p></p><p>I've decided this is what will be best for me, so next year my husband is taking early retirement and we're moving to a town about three hours away. My other two boys will be living in our capital city because both boys will be at university there next year, so the move won't really affect them. They will visit us on a regular basis. I don't know whether Difficult Child will visit or not. </p><p></p><p>In any case, there will be some distance between us on a day to day basis and (hopefully) that will give me some peace. I do better when I don't know what he's doing and he does better when he doesn't have me to fall back on.</p><p></p><p>Remember, you are important. You deserve peace in your life. Your sons are adults. You are not responsible for them anymore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MissLulu, post: 760281, member: 24721"] JayPee, I'm sorry you find yourself here. I can empathise, believe me. We know the right thing to do is to step back and not to enable, but sometimes that is hard. I think Busy is right. Sometimes physical distance can be the answer. I'm happiest when my Difficult Child is far away from me. I feel awful saying that, but it's the truth. I don't know what your situation is, but perhaps a move would be good. I've decided this is what will be best for me, so next year my husband is taking early retirement and we're moving to a town about three hours away. My other two boys will be living in our capital city because both boys will be at university there next year, so the move won't really affect them. They will visit us on a regular basis. I don't know whether Difficult Child will visit or not. In any case, there will be some distance between us on a day to day basis and (hopefully) that will give me some peace. I do better when I don't know what he's doing and he does better when he doesn't have me to fall back on. Remember, you are important. You deserve peace in your life. Your sons are adults. You are not responsible for them anymore. [/QUOTE]
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