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Back to the Board again after many years, son is now a raging alcoholic too!
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<blockquote data-quote="nalajama" data-source="post: 716591" data-attributes="member: 22154"><p>I agree with most of what was said and I thank you for the kick in the butt. However, I don' t agree that it is my responsibility to get him to stop driving, that's not up to me and I resent being told that I should feel guilty for paying his car insurance in case he hurts someone while driving drunk. That is his choice to make those bad decisions and not in my control. He will drive his car whether he has insurance or not. I have pleaded with him, given him info on AA meetings, given him schedules, offered to go with him, etc, all of which are really enabling actions in themself but still I have done those things to try to make him see that he is drinking too much and may hurt himself or others.It's up to the police, the courts and the DMV to get him to stop driving, so I don't appreciate being made to feel guilty that I will somehow be responsible if he hurts someone while driving because I paid the car insurance. It's the assisting him with any money that I need to stop doing.</p><p></p><p>As far as paying him to house sit, he has housesat for me several times a year for the past 10 years and I have never had this problem before, so obvioulsy I now realize that he is out of control, hence my return to the board.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nalajama, post: 716591, member: 22154"] I agree with most of what was said and I thank you for the kick in the butt. However, I don' t agree that it is my responsibility to get him to stop driving, that's not up to me and I resent being told that I should feel guilty for paying his car insurance in case he hurts someone while driving drunk. That is his choice to make those bad decisions and not in my control. He will drive his car whether he has insurance or not. I have pleaded with him, given him info on AA meetings, given him schedules, offered to go with him, etc, all of which are really enabling actions in themself but still I have done those things to try to make him see that he is drinking too much and may hurt himself or others.It's up to the police, the courts and the DMV to get him to stop driving, so I don't appreciate being made to feel guilty that I will somehow be responsible if he hurts someone while driving because I paid the car insurance. It's the assisting him with any money that I need to stop doing. As far as paying him to house sit, he has housesat for me several times a year for the past 10 years and I have never had this problem before, so obvioulsy I now realize that he is out of control, hence my return to the board. [/QUOTE]
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