We met with the MST therapist yesterday and she did one on one with both difficult child and easy child separately away from the house. Then decided that we would have parenting one as well which was going fine until difficult child decided to get involved in the conversation so we had to send him to his room. WE have not left him alone at home since he came home so she thought it would be a good idea to leave him here and us go have our session somewhere else. easy child was getting ready for a date and we told difficult child what we were doing we incouraged him to be safe and do the right thing but we still had all of easy child's electronics in our room since that is the only room that locks. we made sure that the windows were locked and everything. We left and then shortly easy child called and told us that she was leaving and I double checked to make sure that the room was locked and she said yes. We got home last night and unfortunately he did go into easy child's room and did get into ours as well , he for some reason even moved the entertainment center in the living room (?????) We didn't want to start conflict last night so we waited then today found out the he has taken a speaker and both cords to her new and old ipod---It started a huge fight between the two and difficult child told easy child to go into his room and see if she could find proof then she went in there and he blocked her from getting in the closet and she fell over all the junk in his room. We both husband and I went back there to make sure that she was ok and he threw us all out and started his loud music and slamming the doors then got a ladder and blocked his door. We called the MST and she too is disappointed. easy child left now on a date and difficult child is still trying to calm down but is still slamming things which is upsetting husband SO as usuall I am stuck in the middle. He hardly has an priveldges at all and MST is telling us that we realy need the consequences to be strong but what especially since he still is denying it and we really don't have proof except the fact that he was the only one home and his footprints are in the flower bed under our bedroom window which he says didn't happen now (yeah right) What do we do for consequence --I feel responsible because I did not feel he could be left alone. NOW WHAT????