I posted about a week ago after difficult child and girlfriend went out to a party and didn't get in until 5:30 a.m. He was drunk and mad. Well we got over that hurdle - but then.... Monday night I got a call about 10:30 from our local police station, seems difficult child and girlfriend decided to shop lift at walmart. Hind sight being 20/20 I should have left them in jail but I didn't. Since girlfriend is not my kid she didn't like the fact there was tension in the house because I was upset that they got arrested. Gee... what was I thinking? (said sarcastically). Neither of them have even given me a "thank-you for getting us out of jail" yet. Tuesday when I got home from work - after getting 3 hours of sleep - they were both still asleep. Must be nice. Wed. morning I was off work and told them house rules ask them what they had decided, was she leaving? She was, difficult child got very upset said it wasn't "fair" that she could leave and do what she wanted while he had to stay here and be restricted to the house due to the shoplifting. He was begging her not to leave and when she still wanted to go he got violent. Picked up an old broken bb gun and started using it as a bat to punch holes in walls and doors. Grabbed her and pushed her down, pushed me twice trying to get to her. Had 911 on the phone during all this, the operator ask me if I wanted her to stay on the phone with me until the officer arrived I said yes. Once I got them split up I told her to go to my room and lock the door. Again that lovely hind sight I should have went with her but I was trying to calm him down and get the bb gun away so when the police got here they wouldn't shoot him. In the midst of all this another bomb was dropped on my head "difficult child screamed out that was his girlfriend and she was possibley pregnant". Wonderful way to be informed of that! Police showed up, handcuffed him, talked to him and her and was not going to arrest him until.... cop ask girlfriend if she wanted to stay and she said no, he noticed that difficult child got real aggitated sitting on couch in handcuffs that is when the cop decided to take him in. We go to court this morning and they bring him in, nice yellow suit and all. Judge was going to release him to us I told judge I was afraid for my safety so the judge said he would hold him for a week. Public defender said she was new to the area and told the judge she would check for a place to have him taken. The judge smiled at her and plainly said "there isn't any". So for now he is in juvenile detention until next Thursday. I have an appointment with the public defender Monday. I am also looking for a place for him to get help. I held it together through all this until I walked out of the courtroom, headed straight to the bathroom crying my eyes out. Yes he needs help, yes I am afraid of him, yes he is still my son and I love him with all my heart. This is all so hard. I want him evaluated and tested for any and every problem he may have. From depression to bi-polar and everything in between. Will I get that? Starting to look doubtful. What a wonderful society we live in. Just wanted to give you all an update. Thanks for all the responses to my last post. Hoping he gets some help before he seriously hurts one of us.