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Bail raised to $600,000!! insanity!
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 636729" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Ok no lectures from me just some thoughts and observations:</p><p> </p><p>First let me say I am glad you are realizing that this is his burden to bear.</p><p> </p><p>Second let me say that it isn't your husbands fault that your son was in contact with this "bad man." Your son had choices about who he chose to hang out with. He could have just as easily gone to a church for assistance or chosen to hang out with someone who wasn't a "bad man." Please don't blame your husband for your sons decisions. Actually please stop trying to place blame anywhere except for on your son. He chose to makes the choices that got him kicked out. He also chose to make the choices that got him in jail. He had free will up until he was arrested and could have done the right things.</p><p> </p><p>Third you are right the sentencing is out of your hands. The only thing you can do is let the atty and the judge know that you are here to support your son and will be there for him no matter what. I would refrain from making any excuses for him or trying to explain things away. The judge will know that is a mothers sentiment and not always reality.</p><p> </p><p>Last your son commited a violent crime. By downplaying it and saying he tapped the victim with a pipe you are minimizing what he did. He didn't tap someone with a pipe he hit him. Thank God he didn't injure him badly. He didn't sit idly in the car while all this happened he got out and screamed at/threatened 6 teenage kids. I am not trying to say he is one step below Jeffrey Dalmer or anything like that I am just trying to help you visualize their fears.</p><p> </p><p>I hope your son doesn't wind up being an example because of his affiliation with the "bad man." I also hope that he doesn't get a stiffer penalty because one of the kids is a police officers child. Most of all I hope that you can see that your child is now facing some very real adult issues and that like any mother you can be there for him. You just can' fix it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 636729, member: 15473"] Ok no lectures from me just some thoughts and observations: First let me say I am glad you are realizing that this is his burden to bear. Second let me say that it isn't your husbands fault that your son was in contact with this "bad man." Your son had choices about who he chose to hang out with. He could have just as easily gone to a church for assistance or chosen to hang out with someone who wasn't a "bad man." Please don't blame your husband for your sons decisions. Actually please stop trying to place blame anywhere except for on your son. He chose to makes the choices that got him kicked out. He also chose to make the choices that got him in jail. He had free will up until he was arrested and could have done the right things. Third you are right the sentencing is out of your hands. The only thing you can do is let the atty and the judge know that you are here to support your son and will be there for him no matter what. I would refrain from making any excuses for him or trying to explain things away. The judge will know that is a mothers sentiment and not always reality. Last your son commited a violent crime. By downplaying it and saying he tapped the victim with a pipe you are minimizing what he did. He didn't tap someone with a pipe he hit him. Thank God he didn't injure him badly. He didn't sit idly in the car while all this happened he got out and screamed at/threatened 6 teenage kids. I am not trying to say he is one step below Jeffrey Dalmer or anything like that I am just trying to help you visualize their fears. I hope your son doesn't wind up being an example because of his affiliation with the "bad man." I also hope that he doesn't get a stiffer penalty because one of the kids is a police officers child. Most of all I hope that you can see that your child is now facing some very real adult issues and that like any mother you can be there for him. You just can' fix it. [/QUOTE]
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