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BDP daughter wants to her & I to go family therapy
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 658583" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>As someone who perceives herself as the scapegoat of the family, I would have really felt validated and closer to my mother if she had agreed to counseling. I don't know where your daughter is coming from or what happened that has her in this place, but if YOU want to try to help, I hope the counseling works...and that is assuming she will go.</p><p></p><p>Now if you go and she uses therapy, not to listen to you as well as to speak herself, but as a place to abuse you without listening to your side... then I would not attend again and just do "less is more" as far as contact with Daughter. If you don't get her angry, she will probably offer you your grandchild more often and that is really your goal.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry you are dealing with this. Just remember that you can not control another person, even your own adult child, and make the adult child want to heal. If you try and she doesn't, it is on her shoulders then, not yours. You are far from a horrible mother.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 658583, member: 1550"] As someone who perceives herself as the scapegoat of the family, I would have really felt validated and closer to my mother if she had agreed to counseling. I don't know where your daughter is coming from or what happened that has her in this place, but if YOU want to try to help, I hope the counseling works...and that is assuming she will go. Now if you go and she uses therapy, not to listen to you as well as to speak herself, but as a place to abuse you without listening to your side... then I would not attend again and just do "less is more" as far as contact with Daughter. If you don't get her angry, she will probably offer you your grandchild more often and that is really your goal. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Just remember that you can not control another person, even your own adult child, and make the adult child want to heal. If you try and she doesn't, it is on her shoulders then, not yours. You are far from a horrible mother. [/QUOTE]
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