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<blockquote data-quote="jetsam" data-source="post: 697822" data-attributes="member: 20689"><p>I am new here as well. have not posted yet just listening. Your life could be Mine!!! I think our sons were twins separated at birth lol (sorry levity helps me sometimes.) I have walked in your shoes and still do. Its a little bit better these days since i found a NARANON group to go to once a week. It does help. They gave me tools to help me cope. they reminded me its not my fault and I will tell you too, its not your fault! I guess the best thing i am learning is detachment. It sounded horrible the first time i heard it...How could i detach from my child! but if you want to survive you need to try to do this.Iit doesn't mean you stop loving your child you just take back your own life a little at a time. I have found joy again in simple things and actually do not feel like crawling into bed and never coming out again like i used to. MY son is 29 and Have gone through the exact same things as you since he was a child. (I think we knew he had ADHD by the time he was in nursery school, thats when the teachers notes started coming home! From there it progressed, medication not helping much for any length of time, etc...drugs, police taking him from the house for bench warrants for not showing up to court...etc. etc. so I feel your pain! I mean really feel it! I found as I started pulling away and not being there for everything at any time has helped. He sees I won't do for him like i used to and he has started doing a little more for himself. The only one who can help my son is he himself. All my wishing and pleading and trying to fix things did absolutely nothing to help him. If anything i was enabling him by coming to the rescue all the time. So I started to take my life back little by little. And I pray he gets to the point where he has had enough of the life he is living and wants for more. Till then i put my faith in my higher power and hope he will find his higher power too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jetsam, post: 697822, member: 20689"] I am new here as well. have not posted yet just listening. Your life could be Mine!!! I think our sons were twins separated at birth lol (sorry levity helps me sometimes.) I have walked in your shoes and still do. Its a little bit better these days since i found a NARANON group to go to once a week. It does help. They gave me tools to help me cope. they reminded me its not my fault and I will tell you too, its not your fault! I guess the best thing i am learning is detachment. It sounded horrible the first time i heard it...How could i detach from my child! but if you want to survive you need to try to do this.Iit doesn't mean you stop loving your child you just take back your own life a little at a time. I have found joy again in simple things and actually do not feel like crawling into bed and never coming out again like i used to. MY son is 29 and Have gone through the exact same things as you since he was a child. (I think we knew he had ADHD by the time he was in nursery school, thats when the teachers notes started coming home! From there it progressed, medication not helping much for any length of time, etc...drugs, police taking him from the house for bench warrants for not showing up to court...etc. etc. so I feel your pain! I mean really feel it! I found as I started pulling away and not being there for everything at any time has helped. He sees I won't do for him like i used to and he has started doing a little more for himself. The only one who can help my son is he himself. All my wishing and pleading and trying to fix things did absolutely nothing to help him. If anything i was enabling him by coming to the rescue all the time. So I started to take my life back little by little. And I pray he gets to the point where he has had enough of the life he is living and wants for more. Till then i put my faith in my higher power and hope he will find his higher power too. [/QUOTE]
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