Thinking about this forum for a long time. Was such a outlet when difficult child was younger. Now - 18 going on 19. Girlfriend for 4 years. expecting a child. Now, if anyone remembers me, difficult child and I struggled in our relationship to say the least. Didn't matter what I said, he said the opposite. I have ALWAYS been his target. And over the past year the clash between us became physical. He is so very smart, and did nothing with it. Skipped a grade in school. Took some college classes, but school is not his cup of tea. Can't seem to keep a job. "bad attitude" dislikes most people and doesn't hold back what he thinks. sigh. So many times I thought of coming back. Just need someone to talk with. Even though husband is there, he's not there. difficult child could do no wrong in his eyes. ultimately, we rarely speak or even see each other living in the same house. For those experienced with this, let me know if this is temporary or what to expect. Since he found out his girlfriend of 4 years is expecting, he has talked to me. FIRST time EVER he has actually talked. Asked my advice. Had conversations with me. Started a full time job (only been a month, so holding my breath each day). I struggle with girlfriend's mother. She can be very nice, but is all over the place. I never know what to expect. Things have been done and said, and I honestly believe she has been trying to break these two up for years. We struggle financially, they are quite comfortable in a large home. No other siblings home. Will NOT allow my son to stay there when baby is born. He NEEDS to be where that baby is. He needs to learn how to change diapers, feed, bathe, bond. He needs to help girlfriend. If he is not there, they will drift so far apart and it just won't work. He wants to be there. I am sure the plans will change a ton of times. Our house is very small, but we can make it work. Just wondering if anyone has this experience with difficult child. What a good feeling to be able to "talk" to him. Just worried this is only temporary.