mog
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Well things have been really crazy since I last posted and I'm sorry to all that were worried. difficult child finally was put with a TFC family on Oct 2 the father came to pick him up -we did not get to meet them earlier and never met the mother. The placement was no ideal as that they usually meet them and then take them for an hour to get to know them then do a 72 hour to make sure that they get along. In difficult child's case we were told to bring him to the office same day by 4:00 and bring 5days clothing, sleepwear and personal care products. They took and told us they would get back to us in a month. After a month we heard that the TFC wanted a respite Then we heard they quit and he was moved to new family. The entire rest of his stay we were lead to believe that things were doing great. The therapist said that we would have "family therapy and discuss any issues that might be going on. 1st time he wanted to talk about my drinking- he has everyone believing that i am a drunk and even the other three kids tell people that he is lying he still insists. She said that she would not let him discuss any issue for more that 3 sessions. The 2nd time she said that he has come to agree that it is not an issue and we just visited. We were being told that he did not want any contact with us at all but he would call for "therapy" and not have any issues and we just visited. We thought WOW he is getting it together. Then we were told that he even had a part time job and taking online courses to get caught up on his credits. Again WOW. He called for his birthday, thanksgiving, Christmas and New years and sounded happy and together. Then out of nowhere they tell us that he is being kicked out of the program. Friday we called to see if he had court and NO ONE would let us know. He had called from the Difficult Child when they brought him back to town. Finally at 1:38 the public defender calls and asks if we knew he had court at 1 and asks how long it will take to get there. We hauled down there and there were no JPO's on since the state made them take a mandatory day off without pay and this judge granted him to come home. He was excited. He came home and cleaned him room, did his laundry and told us that he really did appreciate us. We went back to court on Tuesday for the real judge to hear his plea and we were granted for him to come home on GPS. He has been home now for 7 days and the honeymoon is already starting to end. He is under house arrest which means I am under house arrest cause husband gets tired of it and leaves. He already is trying to test the waters of what he can get away with. At first I could ask him to do anything and he would.
Unfortunately I still have not found a job. husband is trying to get SSI cause his leg still wont heal. Oldest-step daughter is dating my nephew and they had a baby Nov. 9 they live with my sister. Step son has only talked to me twice in the last year but he is not doing well. Unfortunately easy child is dating an older guy and it seems to me that he is very controlling. We hardly get to see her or talk to her-she is in college out of town but when is here she always gone. She said that if difficult child is living here when the semester is over that she is not living here that she will move in with the boyfriend which is where she is when she does come to town. I feel like I've lost her too. I feel like my support system is falling apart. my brother and his family don't come around much since husband is always over there. I want difficult child to be successful and be here at home but I refuse to go back to living in fear again. The judge told him that if he makes one threat or makes anyone feel unsafe that he will go to D/C. Before he got his GPS I took him to the movies, mall, buying all kind of things that I didn't get to for the last several months and I told him that he is the only one at home now and it could be alot different if he would just follow the rules. He says one thing one day and the next is different. I have spent a lot of time alone and doesn't make me feel good that I cant find a job either. I feel that husband is upset. I was so hopeful when he came home but now
Unfortunately I still have not found a job. husband is trying to get SSI cause his leg still wont heal. Oldest-step daughter is dating my nephew and they had a baby Nov. 9 they live with my sister. Step son has only talked to me twice in the last year but he is not doing well. Unfortunately easy child is dating an older guy and it seems to me that he is very controlling. We hardly get to see her or talk to her-she is in college out of town but when is here she always gone. She said that if difficult child is living here when the semester is over that she is not living here that she will move in with the boyfriend which is where she is when she does come to town. I feel like I've lost her too. I feel like my support system is falling apart. my brother and his family don't come around much since husband is always over there. I want difficult child to be successful and be here at home but I refuse to go back to living in fear again. The judge told him that if he makes one threat or makes anyone feel unsafe that he will go to D/C. Before he got his GPS I took him to the movies, mall, buying all kind of things that I didn't get to for the last several months and I told him that he is the only one at home now and it could be alot different if he would just follow the rules. He says one thing one day and the next is different. I have spent a lot of time alone and doesn't make me feel good that I cant find a job either. I feel that husband is upset. I was so hopeful when he came home but now