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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 741238" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>It’s really hard to second guess. I have a lot of regrets, too, but I also didn’t have a supportive partner who would present a united front on things or respond in a rational way to their needs at that time, so my hands were kind of tied. We did play hardball with C and his dad ultimately threw him out of the house for non compliance. As you can see from my posts, that has not resulted in a miraculous turnaround. He’s turning 33 and I’m still waiting for him to take responsibility for his life. He probably needed a bit more support and a lot less hardball from dad. S really needed a diagnosis and supportive services. Again, didn’t happen because her dad didn’t believe in therapy and refused to acknowledge that she might need medications, a counselor and social services. He saw those things as signs of weakness that he wasn’t going to allow in his kids. Her life hadn’t turned out well either. My wish is I could turn back time and somehow get both of them connected to counseling, medications, support services, maybe SSI. (I think S at least would have qualified.) if laying down the law by itself would have worked my kids would all be perfect - my ex was the law and he laid it down hard.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 741238, member: 23349"] It’s really hard to second guess. I have a lot of regrets, too, but I also didn’t have a supportive partner who would present a united front on things or respond in a rational way to their needs at that time, so my hands were kind of tied. We did play hardball with C and his dad ultimately threw him out of the house for non compliance. As you can see from my posts, that has not resulted in a miraculous turnaround. He’s turning 33 and I’m still waiting for him to take responsibility for his life. He probably needed a bit more support and a lot less hardball from dad. S really needed a diagnosis and supportive services. Again, didn’t happen because her dad didn’t believe in therapy and refused to acknowledge that she might need medications, a counselor and social services. He saw those things as signs of weakness that he wasn’t going to allow in his kids. Her life hadn’t turned out well either. My wish is I could turn back time and somehow get both of them connected to counseling, medications, support services, maybe SSI. (I think S at least would have qualified.) if laying down the law by itself would have worked my kids would all be perfect - my ex was the law and he laid it down hard. [/QUOTE]
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