I'm sure most of you don't remember me, quickly short story. My oldest DS is 12 now, he has been diagnosis'd with ODD, ADD, depression and possible bipolar. We lived in NY and in the last year we've moved to Indiana. My son was out of control in NY with me. He scared me, I was worried he'd hurt himself, he was hospitalized for 2 weeks. Flunked 5th grade, but I did all I really felt I could. So he came to Indiana to be with his father in march last year. The rest of us waiting till the other kids were out of school and we moved here. (may) So he primarly lives with his father, Sun - Thurs and then with me each weekend, but I do see him daily. Last I reported he was doing 100% better, off ALL his medications!!! Straight A's, in sports and no more depression. I mean a different child, his father did wonders for him, and his father's wife. I am impressed!!! Okay fast forward, last week. DS got into trouble @ school, he's in 6th grade now. He put SOS and his school's name on the paper with the following date written. He did not know what SOS meant (he thought it meant the "s word") Anyways, he left it on the bus, another child found it turned it in, the principal found out it was DS and suspended him for "threatening" the school. They let him finish the whole day, but was suspended the date written on the note. So his father punished him 3 ways, grounded 1 week, the day of suspension he was to work by mowing and cleaning the yard, and he was spanked with a belt. Now I do not agree with- spankings, my Ex knows this, and I have been assured by him he would not be spanked (he spanked him a year ago and left a small bruise, which I freaked FREAKED out about) So this weekend DS comes to my house for his birthday party. He has a bruise from the belt, and bruise isn't even a good word, it looks like he was hit with- a baseball bat. He said 4 swats, the bruise starts mid thigh all the way up his butt. I took pics, I talked to the father, I told him that it was NOT okay and I was very unhappy with this. By Sunday I couldn't stand it, I called CPS annon. they went to his school Monday, took photos. Then called the county police out the following day. Called EX last night to have him come into the PD. I need to mention Ex is a city cop too. So I got a call from Ex's wife stating did I call, and he could loose his job, and how it's my fault and I need to do something about this. I told her that it was all on EX and this was NOT DS's fault or my fault, there should have been no hitting #1, not use of belts #2 and not hard enough for bruising to take effect #3. I mean is she for real? He's out @ the PD today, I'm not sure what will happen. CPS told me he was going to be forced to take Anger Management and parenting classes. As far as charges it was up to the cops, but I doubt that it will happen. Ex isn't worried, he said he deserved the punishment and it's not abuse. I believe it is. Wondering if anyone has any experience with- this. We have joint custody but he has physical custody and I am just scared about all of this.