can just break your heart sometime--no matter how much you detach and place the ball in their court--it is still hard. difficult child is having a tough time. He is unemployed, his girlfriend just broke up with him, and he is in the midst of a depressive cycle. He has grand delusions about going back to school, but after shelling out tuition and seeing it thrown away twice, I won't do it again, and I'm not sure he can get financial aid with his criminal record. He came by today to ask to move back in. I told him no. And it hurt my heart. I also told him why. He has not worked on the issues that caused us to ask him to leave. His life is still a mess as a result of him impulse and anger issues. And I have given him the opportunities to get the tools needed to go forward in life over and over. And I have hoped each time that he will pick them up and use them. But he hasn't, and his life is a result of his choices. But, it still hurts.