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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 678164" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi Hopeful, I know you are reeling from the emotions of the encounters with your son and then the video and now the biopsy, but I want you to know that through it all, I see a lot of good thinking on your part.</p><p></p><p>While it's very painful to hear and see these things, you have learned quite a bit about boundaries and letting him deal with his own life. </p><p></p><p>It's so hard to make that first break, and it's so hard to hear that they still aren't doing the things that will lead them to a better life, but you know and I know that we can't make that happen for them.</p><p></p><p>Who knows what he was thinking when he called you and what made him say the things he said to you and then go out and become violent? Don't try to apply your good reason to his motives and his decisions----he is going to do whatever he does until he is motivated by something to change his life.</p><p></p><p>In my experience, the times my son was in jail (8 or 9 times) were the best times for him and for me, looking back. He was "somewhere", I could rest in that knowledge, he was away from the street, homelessness and drugs and actually, jail became a preferred place (for me) for him. It was one night while he was in jail the last time that he had an "awakening" that seems to have stuck. He is on a different path today and I pray it continues.</p><p></p><p>As much as you can, stand back from him and say very little and wait. Beating someone up like he did will have some consequences of some sort, and perhaps that will be HIS turning point.</p><p></p><p>I hope your doctor's visit was a positive one today and you are able to focus on yourself. Take care, and know that we're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 678164, member: 17542"] Hi Hopeful, I know you are reeling from the emotions of the encounters with your son and then the video and now the biopsy, but I want you to know that through it all, I see a lot of good thinking on your part. While it's very painful to hear and see these things, you have learned quite a bit about boundaries and letting him deal with his own life. It's so hard to make that first break, and it's so hard to hear that they still aren't doing the things that will lead them to a better life, but you know and I know that we can't make that happen for them. Who knows what he was thinking when he called you and what made him say the things he said to you and then go out and become violent? Don't try to apply your good reason to his motives and his decisions----he is going to do whatever he does until he is motivated by something to change his life. In my experience, the times my son was in jail (8 or 9 times) were the best times for him and for me, looking back. He was "somewhere", I could rest in that knowledge, he was away from the street, homelessness and drugs and actually, jail became a preferred place (for me) for him. It was one night while he was in jail the last time that he had an "awakening" that seems to have stuck. He is on a different path today and I pray it continues. As much as you can, stand back from him and say very little and wait. Beating someone up like he did will have some consequences of some sort, and perhaps that will be HIS turning point. I hope your doctor's visit was a positive one today and you are able to focus on yourself. Take care, and know that we're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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