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<blockquote data-quote="mrscatinthehat" data-source="post: 71068" data-attributes="member: 2063"><p>Just got off the phone with GFG2s Residential Treatment Center (RTC). </p><p></p><p>difficult children former step sister is now in residence at one of the cottages at the same campus. He saw her a couple of days ago. I immediately made a call to our social worker as this is a very bad thing. Received and email yesterday from his case manager at the facility telling me that they would not be allowed contact. Was reassured that everyone (how that is possible on a campus the size of this one I don't know). That the school had been talked to etc. </p><p></p><p>I was slightly reassured that at least my concern was not going unnoticed.</p><p></p><p>Well now the case manager just called to tell me that he talked to her today. I held my head on (anyone got any spare duck tape as I used all mine). Then she tells me about the conversation. Evidentally she told him that her dad and his bio mom were coming to visit her. Holy s***. This is the bad part here.</p><p></p><p>Bio bat is not allowed contact for several reasons. Number one being I adopted him. Number two she decided in a staffing a couple years ago before I adopted him that she wanted no part in participating in these kids lives(the kids know about her decision). </p><p></p><p>He got on the phone with me and was amazed at how happy I sounded (am I good or what). Then he told me about what had been going on and about seeing his mom. I gently reminded him that I was his mom. I also gently reminded him that she made the decision a long time ago that she wanted it that way. He started to cry. I tried to be as gentle about this as I could but firm that he was not to have contact.</p><p></p><p>While I was on the phone with the case manager I told her that this is going to be a major problem with all of his attachment issues. He knows that she chose not to be in his life and now he sees she is going to be in a childs life she didn't bring into the world. </p><p></p><p>I am befuddled as to how first of all his county (not a big one) would sent kids that are not to have contact and the potential adults he is not to have contact with to the same place. </p><p></p><p>Does the battle ever end? I was having a reasonable day I should know better. Blast it.</p><p></p><p>Sorry so long but errrrr.</p><p></p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrscatinthehat, post: 71068, member: 2063"] Just got off the phone with GFG2s Residential Treatment Center (RTC). difficult children former step sister is now in residence at one of the cottages at the same campus. He saw her a couple of days ago. I immediately made a call to our social worker as this is a very bad thing. Received and email yesterday from his case manager at the facility telling me that they would not be allowed contact. Was reassured that everyone (how that is possible on a campus the size of this one I don't know). That the school had been talked to etc. I was slightly reassured that at least my concern was not going unnoticed. Well now the case manager just called to tell me that he talked to her today. I held my head on (anyone got any spare duck tape as I used all mine). Then she tells me about the conversation. Evidentally she told him that her dad and his bio mom were coming to visit her. Holy s***. This is the bad part here. Bio bat is not allowed contact for several reasons. Number one being I adopted him. Number two she decided in a staffing a couple years ago before I adopted him that she wanted no part in participating in these kids lives(the kids know about her decision). He got on the phone with me and was amazed at how happy I sounded (am I good or what). Then he told me about what had been going on and about seeing his mom. I gently reminded him that I was his mom. I also gently reminded him that she made the decision a long time ago that she wanted it that way. He started to cry. I tried to be as gentle about this as I could but firm that he was not to have contact. While I was on the phone with the case manager I told her that this is going to be a major problem with all of his attachment issues. He knows that she chose not to be in his life and now he sees she is going to be in a childs life she didn't bring into the world. I am befuddled as to how first of all his county (not a big one) would sent kids that are not to have contact and the potential adults he is not to have contact with to the same place. Does the battle ever end? I was having a reasonable day I should know better. Blast it. Sorry so long but errrrr. Beth [/QUOTE]
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