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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 655032" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>HMB, yeah, the laws sucker <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> At the same time, they assure the child is not kidnapped across the country, etc. Are they fair? H ahaha. You would not want to ask my son that. He makes a good salary, but he still has his own expenses, a house payment, car payment, his son...his ex is remarried and have two incomes and he has to give up a ton of his salary to them plus pay child care costs for his son and half of all medical. Together, ex and her new hub probably make 2/3rds of what he does. They don't need as much as he is giving them, but he is pragmatic and does what he has to do.Stepparent's income is not figured in. It doesn't matter when figuring out child support.</p><p></p><p>Mediation didn't work for ex. She wanted nothing less than full custody after a full trial. She did not cooperate with the mediator and he got irritated with her a few times and she ended up bawling and nothing was signed. Mediation isn't binding. There is really no way to have a rational discussion with ex. She wanted 100% custody and she really thought spending all the money they did would get that for her, although she had no grounds for taking any custody at all away from my son.</p><p></p><p>Getting full custody is very rare and very hard. The courts in many states (they are all different) believe in 50/50. To try to bump Dad out of child's life, you have to prove (and I do mean prove) t hat he is abusing his kid (as in bruises that are documented by a doctor who has seen them). Emotional abuse is a loser in court. What Dad thinks is ok, Mom may think is emotional abuse and Judges don't have the interest in those "he said/she said" fights.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, I do still recommend court custody so that this man can't run off with son on a whim. Without it, the boy is not protected. Legally a parent can not kidnap her own child and without custody orders in place there is no crime.</p><p></p><p>My son was lucky that his father, my ex, had the money to fund his custody battle. He could not have done it alone and me and my husband simply don't have extra money.</p><p></p><p>Divorce is so bad for the kids. Really. And no fault divorce as in women who go on Match while married then run off with another man can not have that bad behavior that DOES hurt the child taken into consideration in a custody battle. My son didn't even know she was thinking of leaving until the day sh e did. If he had known more, he could have filed that the mother had abaondoned the son and probably have gotten primary custody...that is frowned upon, leaving th house and your child. But he learned on the fly, like most people so by the time divorce was in full swing, that particular incident was not allowed to be a part of the custody decision. Getting 50% if you are a male though is very much a win. by the way, ex's stepfather has slapped grandson across the face and he talked about it when I was visiting them, but son can't do anything about it because son is afraid of his mother and won't tell it to anyone else adn begged my son not to tell anyone and because there was no mark on his face. Crazy, but this comes abou because there are so many false allegations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 655032, member: 1550"] HMB, yeah, the laws sucker ;) At the same time, they assure the child is not kidnapped across the country, etc. Are they fair? H ahaha. You would not want to ask my son that. He makes a good salary, but he still has his own expenses, a house payment, car payment, his son...his ex is remarried and have two incomes and he has to give up a ton of his salary to them plus pay child care costs for his son and half of all medical. Together, ex and her new hub probably make 2/3rds of what he does. They don't need as much as he is giving them, but he is pragmatic and does what he has to do.Stepparent's income is not figured in. It doesn't matter when figuring out child support. Mediation didn't work for ex. She wanted nothing less than full custody after a full trial. She did not cooperate with the mediator and he got irritated with her a few times and she ended up bawling and nothing was signed. Mediation isn't binding. There is really no way to have a rational discussion with ex. She wanted 100% custody and she really thought spending all the money they did would get that for her, although she had no grounds for taking any custody at all away from my son. Getting full custody is very rare and very hard. The courts in many states (they are all different) believe in 50/50. To try to bump Dad out of child's life, you have to prove (and I do mean prove) t hat he is abusing his kid (as in bruises that are documented by a doctor who has seen them). Emotional abuse is a loser in court. What Dad thinks is ok, Mom may think is emotional abuse and Judges don't have the interest in those "he said/she said" fights. At any rate, I do still recommend court custody so that this man can't run off with son on a whim. Without it, the boy is not protected. Legally a parent can not kidnap her own child and without custody orders in place there is no crime. My son was lucky that his father, my ex, had the money to fund his custody battle. He could not have done it alone and me and my husband simply don't have extra money. Divorce is so bad for the kids. Really. And no fault divorce as in women who go on Match while married then run off with another man can not have that bad behavior that DOES hurt the child taken into consideration in a custody battle. My son didn't even know she was thinking of leaving until the day sh e did. If he had known more, he could have filed that the mother had abaondoned the son and probably have gotten primary custody...that is frowned upon, leaving th house and your child. But he learned on the fly, like most people so by the time divorce was in full swing, that particular incident was not allowed to be a part of the custody decision. Getting 50% if you are a male though is very much a win. by the way, ex's stepfather has slapped grandson across the face and he talked about it when I was visiting them, but son can't do anything about it because son is afraid of his mother and won't tell it to anyone else adn begged my son not to tell anyone and because there was no mark on his face. Crazy, but this comes abou because there are so many false allegations. [/QUOTE]
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