Along with the challenges I face with my Difficult Child. I have had my mother pass away in May. I am Co Executor with my brother. There is a tremendous amount of family discourse. No one in the family speaks to my brother due to past bad behaviour. So I am the intermediary between the estate and family. My brother is a very toxic and negative person and the process of having to deal with him is exhausting. I am contemplating relinquishing my co executorship with him. I simply do not have the energy to cope with his crap. If I do this it will be a very strained situation for communication regarding the estsate moving forward. He had an estate lawyer for my father's affairs which were a messy affair due to theft, lying and infighting by family members. This law firm declined to work further with the family in any capacity due to the poor dynamics. We do have a law firm on board and my brother sent communication to then without conferring with me first. There were clarifications I felt necessary and I made them. He went all ape poop and began accusing me of colluding with other family members to not provide information required to clear the accounts and put the Will through probate. He constantly rages and acuses various family members of theft of particular items from the family home. Items were taken and money stolen. However there is no way of proving who took what and to me it is all sadly water under the bridge. As we can not prove who did what, we need to move forward and act on my mother's will in a legal and reasonable manner. He is determined to find fault and fraudulent activity with my 2 sisters who were POAs for my mother. I do not believe they did any miscarriages of any sort while managing my mother's affairs. Because of my brothers nature they declined to cooperate with providing complete accounting documents without a letter from the lawyers office outlining what is needed. Simply put we need to request a letter be sent to them from the law firm. He did this in a very inflammatory fashion and again not approving the communication with me prior to sending it. He is now accusing me of colluding with family and preventing this process from moving forward. It is a matter of dambed if I do damned if I don't. My mother suffered from Alzheimer's and if she was in her right mind she would have amended her will to remove my brother. He was very verbally abusive to my parents. My father had a complete breakdown of relationship with my brother and stopped all communication with him before he passsed away. He feels he is charge and in control and is going to get even with all the wrong that was done to him. He rants about personal injustices going as far back as childhood. I think he needs therapy. Good grief! Anyone have any experience or suggestions here?