What do you do with a bio dad who shows up after 18 years and is 100% supportive of your difficult child? Sounds like a wonderful thing right? Except that I am pretty sure he has no idea what he is supporting. I am sure he has no idea that by supporting her he is ripping her and husband further apart. I am pretty sure he probably doesn't care because if he did he would have been found long ago instead of not being there. Actually I am pretty sure that if my drunken mother hadn't found him he wouldn't be here to this day. Can you tell that I am having a really hard time holding my tongue? I could easily inform him of what is going on but difficult child would see that as a betrayal. She is much happier when people do what she wants and believe whatever fantasy she has created. I know I should keep my mouth shut and I will but it is killing me to see husband get hurt. Plus it kills me that BIO Dad is getting off easy after 18 years of neglect. It must be really easy to be the good guy when you don't have a history and don't have to deal with the aftermath. Wonder if difficult child will send him the bill for the several thousand she owes if she drops out of school?