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Bipolar, ADD son, now 29 and back at home... :-(
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<blockquote data-quote="theboyzmom" data-source="post: 706516" data-attributes="member: 21272"><p>Hello and thank you all for so many good responses and info. Yes he is on a myriad of medications and had a breakdown in 2015 after returning from a FL trip where he lived with friends. We had him hospitalized after he went crazy one evening cutting wires from our smoke alarms, lights, and taking our vehicle in the middle of the night to try and cross the border. It was a miracle nothing happened to him. We had to make a police report because we didn't know where he was. He left in pajama pants without a wallet. Later afterwards we discovered he was off his prozac and lamictal for almost a month trying to save money for food. When he came home from hospital they had him taking an anti psychotic but he could not wake up on this stuff, it put him in a stupor. So his Psychiatrist took him off of it (he was on resperdal for a month) He was put back on prozac and lamictal and then adderall because he couldn't wake up in the morning, and was extremely disorganized, not showering, shaving just living like a caveman....(it was awful) The adderall for him was good, because he eventually went back to college and could graduate with his BS after 6 yrs. trying. But now he has other issues. The adderall has begun to give him side effects like twitches, eyelid winking, and most recently he started showing signs of PBA. (You must have seen the commercials on TV for this) (First we thought it might be tourettes or something else but ugh....who knows?) He is on a trial medication for HIV (another thing we found out recently) trial because its free. He cannot afford the retroviral medication, its almost $2,000/mo. I accepted the fact a couple of years ago he told me he "thought" he was gay. I cried for days, but then I let it go. As a mom (and a single mom for 9 yrs. after their dad left) I gave them my heart and soul and everything I could. One son is married and a lawyer now and this one is struggling. I cannot look back anymore it is heartwrenching. So we live day by day and try to turn the lights on in winter, and keep things positive. I love to cook and try to cook healthy meals and go over and beyond what a lot of parents I know would do. I have had some people say "kick his ass out, he's a man now." But, I am compassionate and know what this disorder is. It runs in the family, his dad had it. His grandma had it. I am not there yet to let go. He is considered highly functioning and most days now he is ok and actually spends time with us after dinner talking and laughing. But on a gray rainy day, its not so pleasant, but we are learning (my husband and I) how to read the moods and counteract his dark tendency to be down. I believe he can also be manic at times, but not yet diagnosed, because we are not allowed to talk to his doctors. That's the law. We tell him things but we don't really know if he is telling his dr. these things or not. He's sneaky at times. Right now he is on a high. He's busy cleaning, and organizing his room. Why? Because we told him we were going on a trip to Florida in March. He was ecstatic and wanted to go (like a kid). So he already quit his job (not happy about this, but no energy to argue) he's paying his bills for the next few months in advance, and he's going with us. I don't know how long his life will be, but for now, we just try to laugh a little everyday and be kind. I push my worries back in my mind, because it does me no good. While we are in FL I will take some photos of him in the sun, happy as I want to remember him that way. (Photography is one of my hobbies) We just don't really know how long he has. I am preparing myself for what may come down the road....</p><p>and I didn't even mention I also am a caregiver now to my 89 yr. old mother. In the last 5 yrs., 10 family members have passed away, include my father and my sons' father (he drank himself to death) so that is why I cannot just kick him out. Sigh.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="theboyzmom, post: 706516, member: 21272"] Hello and thank you all for so many good responses and info. Yes he is on a myriad of medications and had a breakdown in 2015 after returning from a FL trip where he lived with friends. We had him hospitalized after he went crazy one evening cutting wires from our smoke alarms, lights, and taking our vehicle in the middle of the night to try and cross the border. It was a miracle nothing happened to him. We had to make a police report because we didn't know where he was. He left in pajama pants without a wallet. Later afterwards we discovered he was off his prozac and lamictal for almost a month trying to save money for food. When he came home from hospital they had him taking an anti psychotic but he could not wake up on this stuff, it put him in a stupor. So his Psychiatrist took him off of it (he was on resperdal for a month) He was put back on prozac and lamictal and then adderall because he couldn't wake up in the morning, and was extremely disorganized, not showering, shaving just living like a caveman....(it was awful) The adderall for him was good, because he eventually went back to college and could graduate with his BS after 6 yrs. trying. But now he has other issues. The adderall has begun to give him side effects like twitches, eyelid winking, and most recently he started showing signs of PBA. (You must have seen the commercials on TV for this) (First we thought it might be tourettes or something else but ugh....who knows?) He is on a trial medication for HIV (another thing we found out recently) trial because its free. He cannot afford the retroviral medication, its almost $2,000/mo. I accepted the fact a couple of years ago he told me he "thought" he was gay. I cried for days, but then I let it go. As a mom (and a single mom for 9 yrs. after their dad left) I gave them my heart and soul and everything I could. One son is married and a lawyer now and this one is struggling. I cannot look back anymore it is heartwrenching. So we live day by day and try to turn the lights on in winter, and keep things positive. I love to cook and try to cook healthy meals and go over and beyond what a lot of parents I know would do. I have had some people say "kick his ass out, he's a man now." But, I am compassionate and know what this disorder is. It runs in the family, his dad had it. His grandma had it. I am not there yet to let go. He is considered highly functioning and most days now he is ok and actually spends time with us after dinner talking and laughing. But on a gray rainy day, its not so pleasant, but we are learning (my husband and I) how to read the moods and counteract his dark tendency to be down. I believe he can also be manic at times, but not yet diagnosed, because we are not allowed to talk to his doctors. That's the law. We tell him things but we don't really know if he is telling his dr. these things or not. He's sneaky at times. Right now he is on a high. He's busy cleaning, and organizing his room. Why? Because we told him we were going on a trip to Florida in March. He was ecstatic and wanted to go (like a kid). So he already quit his job (not happy about this, but no energy to argue) he's paying his bills for the next few months in advance, and he's going with us. I don't know how long his life will be, but for now, we just try to laugh a little everyday and be kind. I push my worries back in my mind, because it does me no good. While we are in FL I will take some photos of him in the sun, happy as I want to remember him that way. (Photography is one of my hobbies) We just don't really know how long he has. I am preparing myself for what may come down the road.... and I didn't even mention I also am a caregiver now to my 89 yr. old mother. In the last 5 yrs., 10 family members have passed away, include my father and my sons' father (he drank himself to death) so that is why I cannot just kick him out. Sigh. [/QUOTE]
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