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Bipolar, ADD son, now 29 and back at home... :-(
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<blockquote data-quote="Cheerwyn" data-source="post: 706519" data-attributes="member: 12395"><p>My perspective is a bit different because it's my mother (who has dementia) with the hallucinations and delusions, not my child.</p><p></p><p>But one thing that I think is pretty universal is that telling them that it's not true or their imaginations are running wild does not help. In their mind, the delusions are real and they're already struggling to deal with the confusion that it brings. It just causes more angst to tell them they're imagining things.</p><p></p><p>It can't be done with every situation, but with my Mom we just go along with it in some way rather than contradict.</p><p></p><p>"Have you talked with Joe recently?" Joe's someone from her high school who she hasn't seen in years. "Oh yeah, he's doing fine. Talked to him last week."</p><p></p><p>It's not always possible to do, but for things that they are worried or stressed about, it can be useful to ask what you can do to help or redirect their thoughts.</p><p></p><p>My Mom is convinced that my 12 year-old son was accidently shot by someone and is being treated by her family doctor (Dr. Miles) who retired years ago. So when she calls to ask "How is Ian doing? Has he been to see Dr. Miles recently? I can't believe Mr. Allen shot him." I say "Oh mom, I talked to Dr. Miles he's doing great, completely back to normal. Hey, did I tell you Ian made the A and B Honor roll?" I only mildly acknowledge the delusion and just move on.</p><p></p><p>You have so much on your plate, caring for your son and your elderly Mom. Clearly the "sandwich" years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Cheerwyn, post: 706519, member: 12395"] My perspective is a bit different because it's my mother (who has dementia) with the hallucinations and delusions, not my child. But one thing that I think is pretty universal is that telling them that it's not true or their imaginations are running wild does not help. In their mind, the delusions are real and they're already struggling to deal with the confusion that it brings. It just causes more angst to tell them they're imagining things. It can't be done with every situation, but with my Mom we just go along with it in some way rather than contradict. "Have you talked with Joe recently?" Joe's someone from her high school who she hasn't seen in years. "Oh yeah, he's doing fine. Talked to him last week." It's not always possible to do, but for things that they are worried or stressed about, it can be useful to ask what you can do to help or redirect their thoughts. My Mom is convinced that my 12 year-old son was accidently shot by someone and is being treated by her family doctor (Dr. Miles) who retired years ago. So when she calls to ask "How is Ian doing? Has he been to see Dr. Miles recently? I can't believe Mr. Allen shot him." I say "Oh mom, I talked to Dr. Miles he's doing great, completely back to normal. Hey, did I tell you Ian made the A and B Honor roll?" I only mildly acknowledge the delusion and just move on. You have so much on your plate, caring for your son and your elderly Mom. Clearly the "sandwich" years. [/QUOTE]
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