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Bipolar son about to be homeless
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 728392" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>There is a lot of guilt for all of us.....it's unfortunate that your son went to his ex's, however you have no control over that, he made that choice and apparently she allowed it. We often find ourselves in what we refer to as the FOG, fear, obligation and guilt. The three whoppers that keep us stuck and often keep us enabling and distressed. It's helpful as we evolve thru this, to be able to recognize when we are stuck in the FOG, the recognition is the first step in helping us to stay in our love & compassion yet continue with our boundaries, detaching and acceptance.</p><p></p><p>You didn't cause this, you can't control it and you can't fix it. Sigh. A hard lesson for us parents. </p><p></p><p>If you're interested, you can find therapists in your area on the Psychology Today website and goodtherapy.org.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'd encourage you to continue posting, it helps so much to write our stories down....and then to receive empathy and support. Being heard in a safe place where we are all facing similar issues is..... priceless. </p><p></p><p>As you move thru these difficult feelings with your son, we'll circle our wagons around you......you're never alone here......we're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 728392, member: 13542"] There is a lot of guilt for all of us.....it's unfortunate that your son went to his ex's, however you have no control over that, he made that choice and apparently she allowed it. We often find ourselves in what we refer to as the FOG, fear, obligation and guilt. The three whoppers that keep us stuck and often keep us enabling and distressed. It's helpful as we evolve thru this, to be able to recognize when we are stuck in the FOG, the recognition is the first step in helping us to stay in our love & compassion yet continue with our boundaries, detaching and acceptance. You didn't cause this, you can't control it and you can't fix it. Sigh. A hard lesson for us parents. If you're interested, you can find therapists in your area on the Psychology Today website and goodtherapy.org. I'd encourage you to continue posting, it helps so much to write our stories down....and then to receive empathy and support. Being heard in a safe place where we are all facing similar issues is..... priceless. As you move thru these difficult feelings with your son, we'll circle our wagons around you......you're never alone here......we're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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