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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 726609" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>The gift sounds like a joke. I suppose this could have been the boyfriends attempt to reach out.</p><p>From what you have shared, the boyfriend having trouble making eye contact and the odd choice of gifts really reflects that he does not have good social graces.</p><p></p><p>I understand your concern about your daughter being with this man. It's never easy when we have to be around people we don't care for. When I find myself in this situation I really do my best to just muddle through it. I have found it helps to try and find one positive thing about the person and that helps me tolerate it much better. Something as simple as "they are wearing a really nice shirt".</p><p>You say he loves his dog, that's a good thing. As for not taking proper medical care of him, I question if he realizes he should.</p><p></p><p>I have a sister in law that grates on all my nerves. Anytime we have a family get together I dread having to spend time with her. She too does not have good social skills and really lacks common sense.</p><p>I know how draining it can be to spend time in someone's presence that you don't care for.</p><p></p><p>As much as you dislike this man, for whatever reason, your daughter loves him.</p><p>Because you already have a strained relationship with your daughter I don't think I would share with her that you dislike the boyfriend because that can have the opposite effect that you want and just push her farther into his arms.</p><p>It's not what you say, it's how you say it.</p><p>Something like "does your boyfriend have eye problems because he never looks us in the eye's and I'm just wondering if he's okay"</p><p>You can bring attention to the issue but say it in a way that sounds caring. This way your daughter will be made aware but not in a threatening way.</p><p>"that sure was a funny gift your boyfriend got for your dad, it's a good thing we knew it was a joke because someone else might have been offended to receive a gift like that from someone they don't know very well. We sure had a good laugh"</p><p>Again, you bring attention to it but not in a threatening way.</p><p></p><p>Hopefully you won't have to have too many interactions with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 726609, member: 18516"] The gift sounds like a joke. I suppose this could have been the boyfriends attempt to reach out. From what you have shared, the boyfriend having trouble making eye contact and the odd choice of gifts really reflects that he does not have good social graces. I understand your concern about your daughter being with this man. It's never easy when we have to be around people we don't care for. When I find myself in this situation I really do my best to just muddle through it. I have found it helps to try and find one positive thing about the person and that helps me tolerate it much better. Something as simple as "they are wearing a really nice shirt". You say he loves his dog, that's a good thing. As for not taking proper medical care of him, I question if he realizes he should. I have a sister in law that grates on all my nerves. Anytime we have a family get together I dread having to spend time with her. She too does not have good social skills and really lacks common sense. I know how draining it can be to spend time in someone's presence that you don't care for. As much as you dislike this man, for whatever reason, your daughter loves him. Because you already have a strained relationship with your daughter I don't think I would share with her that you dislike the boyfriend because that can have the opposite effect that you want and just push her farther into his arms. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Something like "does your boyfriend have eye problems because he never looks us in the eye's and I'm just wondering if he's okay" You can bring attention to the issue but say it in a way that sounds caring. This way your daughter will be made aware but not in a threatening way. "that sure was a funny gift your boyfriend got for your dad, it's a good thing we knew it was a joke because someone else might have been offended to receive a gift like that from someone they don't know very well. We sure had a good laugh" Again, you bring attention to it but not in a threatening way. Hopefully you won't have to have too many interactions with him. [/QUOTE]
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