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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 650339" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>IMPORTANT --- Wanted to clarify something. My reminiscing thread here wasn't designed to negate the hard and harsh realities that exist. It's merely to shine a light on the soft and loving realities that also exist -- coexist.</p><p></p><p>I think the 2 can coexist.........the key is acceptance (eliminating the "Should's") and boundaries (whatever works best for US -- different for every person).</p><p></p><p>I know it can be painful to remember the love amid the sadness. So sorry if it brings that to anyone -- not my intention at all. It just helps me to remember that neither life nor people are ONE dimensional. Life and people are MULTI-dimensional.</p><p></p><p>It's taken me a long time (so many years) to get to this understanding that love and joy can coexist amid this madness and mayhem. But I see that they can and I'm not willing to give up my joy any more -- no matter what our son does. Whether our son is here or not, I can still love him. And, more importantly, whether he is here or not, I can still love MY life independent of him!</p><p></p><p>Joy matters! Boundaries help my joy -- and, ironically, help my love. That's what's working today, so that's what I'm living today!</p><p></p><p>Hope that makes sense. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 650339, member: 18284"] IMPORTANT --- Wanted to clarify something. My reminiscing thread here wasn't designed to negate the hard and harsh realities that exist. It's merely to shine a light on the soft and loving realities that also exist -- coexist. I think the 2 can coexist.........the key is acceptance (eliminating the "Should's") and boundaries (whatever works best for US -- different for every person). I know it can be painful to remember the love amid the sadness. So sorry if it brings that to anyone -- not my intention at all. It just helps me to remember that neither life nor people are ONE dimensional. Life and people are MULTI-dimensional. It's taken me a long time (so many years) to get to this understanding that love and joy can coexist amid this madness and mayhem. But I see that they can and I'm not willing to give up my joy any more -- no matter what our son does. Whether our son is here or not, I can still love him. And, more importantly, whether he is here or not, I can still love MY life independent of him! Joy matters! Boundaries help my joy -- and, ironically, help my love. That's what's working today, so that's what I'm living today! Hope that makes sense. :D [/QUOTE]
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