Star, you make excellent, common sense points, as always. My mother in law is clinically depressed, has been for a better portion of her life. It usually shows itself through anger, just like with H. MANY have suggested to her over the years and now to get therapy, a support group, bereavement support, etc, see the dr for some medications, etc., to no avail. She adamantly refuses to acknowledge that she is like "those" people (the kind that need medications/therapy). In her younger years she was actually a counselor for teen girls at a juvy and was fired for suggesting birth control, this was in the '80's in CA. Yeah, she's smart and talks the talk, but does not walk the walk, so to speak. In speaking with sister in law yesterday, I learned that mother in law is behaving very similarly to how her older sister behaved about five years before she passed. Dementia is starring to creep it's way into mother in law's brain, sister in law believes.
Anyway, bottom line is that H needs to man up and take care of this and hopefully he will tonight.
