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easy child texted me from school today, a bomb threat was found in boys bathroom....the school sent a note home to parents. (They have not sent any notes about anything home with the kids in my district in YEARS) The threat said a bomb would go off Friday. School decided NOT to close. There have been many threats the last couple months all thruout the greater chicago metro area, some at colleges, many at high schools, and some even at middle schools and elem schools....very often the schools involved have closed. But, I guess like our district and them never calling a snow day, they choose to not close for bomb threat, either.
easy child told me last nite, now that we have filed intent to register (and paid non refundable fee) and chose her dorm (and paid non refundable fee) and ordered her meal ticket and are supposed to go pick her classes next week----that she decided she cannot afford to go to this school after all. She has numerous scholarships and grants as well as academic awards etc......and she will be getting VA assistance as well, due to dad being 100% permanant total disabled, service connected. I had been nervous and a year ago, I asked her to consider going to our community college for her first year or 2......but she wanted to go away to school, so we began the process. Now all of a sudden out of a clear blue sky, she is adamant she cannot go...is not going.......but- thats about all she says- that she feels she cannot afford it?
difficult child had found a dentist who would accept her Medicaide..she scheduled her own appointment, (A big step for her---setting the appointment, clearing the date and time with me, and simply going at all, becuz she had jumped out of every dentist chair since age 9 or so.....way too high anxiety) I refused to help her set the appointment, becuz I had little faith she would follow thru. well- she did, last week she went--and went back today. I have been upset with husband and kids recently, becuz noone else does one single thing here at all-----and I just still was not sure difficult child would really go back to dentist today, and did not feel like bothering, I am SO weary of so many long trips for medical etc.....and her dentist is 90 mins each way. in heavy traffic. so, last nite I mumbled I should make husband take her...well, thats a joke, he is more anxious than difficult child..he has not driven outside our town in years......and him doing something for anyone? never. To my surprise this morning, he said where and when? SO I let him take her.
and to my greater surprise difficult child let dad take her!
SO I kept expecting things to go bad.....but sounds like it went ok enough, except they both had a panic attack coming home and had to pull over for an hour......
BUT dentist has referred difficult child to another dentist becuz this dentist said she sees no cavities etc, but difficult child is complaining of intense tooth pain.....
So, I wondered if the specialist would accept the Medicaide?
UG!
Turns out..the referred dentist is at Univ of Chicago, same place as sons eye doctor.......5 hour each way trip. I cancelled sons last eye doctor appointment, becuz I simply freaked out myself----so much intense violence in that neighborhood the last month.....so many kids shot, drive by shootings, stray bullets, hit and runs, even an especially unusually high number of public transportation accidents etc, busses hitting pedestrians, and train and el and subway incidents.....WAY more than usual.....SO much more, it got to me. And threats..bomb threats everywhere....threats related to the cougar chicago police killed...and even so many events where police are being blamed for crimes etc....
So- I simply freaked, paniced and could not go to that area right now...plus-----a good number of the victims of all that wind up haveing to stay at the Ronald McDonald House where me and son stay...and last time I was there, it affected me- survivors guilt or something------and so even that part was giving me difficulty, plus the mall shooting near there etc, too......it all had a hand in me cancelling sons last eye appointment.......and as yet, still too much going on for me to yet be able to reschedule it.
Well-------THATS where difficult children dental referral is to. :-(
No way husband could handle THAT trip-----heck, no way I could handle sending him THAT far.....
and to go that far, I cannot do that trip in one day.....partly due to my Lupus/RA, it is just too hard for me, and partly becuz the traffic is SO heavy, SO crazy, so difficult, for the entire 5 hour drive to get there.....Plus there ARE no hotels there, partly why we stay at RMH------BUT difficult child is 19 yrs old.no longer a "child" and therefore does not make us eleigible to stay at RMH......altho that neighborhood is a very hard scary dangerous one, anyway.......
UG!
Life sure stays interesting. ALways some new challenege to rise up to try to face and meet.
I know none of this is really all that intense.....especially compared to how difficult life can be with some of our difficult children........(I remind myself often how glad I am my difficult child is calmer these days.....) - But it still keeps me on my toes and busy........and borders on driving me nuts......
easy child told me last nite, now that we have filed intent to register (and paid non refundable fee) and chose her dorm (and paid non refundable fee) and ordered her meal ticket and are supposed to go pick her classes next week----that she decided she cannot afford to go to this school after all. She has numerous scholarships and grants as well as academic awards etc......and she will be getting VA assistance as well, due to dad being 100% permanant total disabled, service connected. I had been nervous and a year ago, I asked her to consider going to our community college for her first year or 2......but she wanted to go away to school, so we began the process. Now all of a sudden out of a clear blue sky, she is adamant she cannot go...is not going.......but- thats about all she says- that she feels she cannot afford it?
difficult child had found a dentist who would accept her Medicaide..she scheduled her own appointment, (A big step for her---setting the appointment, clearing the date and time with me, and simply going at all, becuz she had jumped out of every dentist chair since age 9 or so.....way too high anxiety) I refused to help her set the appointment, becuz I had little faith she would follow thru. well- she did, last week she went--and went back today. I have been upset with husband and kids recently, becuz noone else does one single thing here at all-----and I just still was not sure difficult child would really go back to dentist today, and did not feel like bothering, I am SO weary of so many long trips for medical etc.....and her dentist is 90 mins each way. in heavy traffic. so, last nite I mumbled I should make husband take her...well, thats a joke, he is more anxious than difficult child..he has not driven outside our town in years......and him doing something for anyone? never. To my surprise this morning, he said where and when? SO I let him take her.
and to my greater surprise difficult child let dad take her!
SO I kept expecting things to go bad.....but sounds like it went ok enough, except they both had a panic attack coming home and had to pull over for an hour......
BUT dentist has referred difficult child to another dentist becuz this dentist said she sees no cavities etc, but difficult child is complaining of intense tooth pain.....
So, I wondered if the specialist would accept the Medicaide?
UG!
Turns out..the referred dentist is at Univ of Chicago, same place as sons eye doctor.......5 hour each way trip. I cancelled sons last eye doctor appointment, becuz I simply freaked out myself----so much intense violence in that neighborhood the last month.....so many kids shot, drive by shootings, stray bullets, hit and runs, even an especially unusually high number of public transportation accidents etc, busses hitting pedestrians, and train and el and subway incidents.....WAY more than usual.....SO much more, it got to me. And threats..bomb threats everywhere....threats related to the cougar chicago police killed...and even so many events where police are being blamed for crimes etc....
So- I simply freaked, paniced and could not go to that area right now...plus-----a good number of the victims of all that wind up haveing to stay at the Ronald McDonald House where me and son stay...and last time I was there, it affected me- survivors guilt or something------and so even that part was giving me difficulty, plus the mall shooting near there etc, too......it all had a hand in me cancelling sons last eye appointment.......and as yet, still too much going on for me to yet be able to reschedule it.
Well-------THATS where difficult children dental referral is to. :-(
No way husband could handle THAT trip-----heck, no way I could handle sending him THAT far.....
and to go that far, I cannot do that trip in one day.....partly due to my Lupus/RA, it is just too hard for me, and partly becuz the traffic is SO heavy, SO crazy, so difficult, for the entire 5 hour drive to get there.....Plus there ARE no hotels there, partly why we stay at RMH------BUT difficult child is 19 yrs old.no longer a "child" and therefore does not make us eleigible to stay at RMH......altho that neighborhood is a very hard scary dangerous one, anyway.......
UG!
Life sure stays interesting. ALways some new challenege to rise up to try to face and meet.
I know none of this is really all that intense.....especially compared to how difficult life can be with some of our difficult children........(I remind myself often how glad I am my difficult child is calmer these days.....) - But it still keeps me on my toes and busy........and borders on driving me nuts......
