I'm feelng real crancky after visiting mom in law this afternoon..... She invited us for tea to chat with some distand family who came around...My little son has toncilitis, so wasn't very 'happy'. Oldest ghg was ok to go because his cousins would have come....He took some things with to occupy himself....then later became a bit aggitated and started teasing his little brother. This made me become more and more stressed! So when he realized that his cousins wasn't coming my oldest became frustrated and oh so BORRED!!! Then he became irritable, wanted me to come and talk to him outside, look at his skating tricks and go for walks with him....I know I had to do this to prefent temper tantrums! My mom in law doesn't know of any of ghg diagnosis...and keeps on telling me to come inside to chat with the adults.... So a bit later ghg started making "tantrum like sounds" and I knew we had to leave soon because this might lead to a full blown meltdown. When I told him softly to stop it...he announced loud and clear..."what do you mean, exct"....aspie coming through! When we left my mom inlaw told me that she feels bad because she could see how irritated I was for visiting her....I told her this is the reason I prefer her visiting us then ghg can occupy himself....she takes it personal and thinks that I have a problem with her, exct. It wount help discussing it with her, she woun't 'get it' and with in 5 minutes the whole world will know all about my son! How do you usually handle this kind of situation....must I just leave my son to be misrable....is it right to just leave soon when you seen meltdown coming or is he manipulating us?