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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 709879" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>I, too, have a 36 year old daughter, who is borderline, though not on the extreme end. I also have two other children. It's been heartbreak for the last 15 years because of her poor choices and expecting to be rescued. It's as though she is an open wound, and everything scrapes her, yet she cannot recognize her own unkindness and dysfunction. I am 64 and finally learning to set boundaries, but I fall down a lot still. I have come to believe that I must do what is right for me and the rest of my family, even if it feels unkind to her. Even those with personality issues such as Borderline (BPD) can choose to get help. I am choosing to save myself. It is hard. My daughter just left another abusive partner, whom I tried to warn her against. She has a newborn and a 5 year old and will possibly be homeless, but I have told her I won't take her in again. I've done it too many times. This is a time of my life when I deserve to use my resources and time as I see fit. My hope for you is that you recognize that you have done nothing wrong, you deserve to be treated with respect, and though it is difficult, the better you take care of yourself, better it will be for everyone, including your Borderline (BPD) model because she will have to face getting help and taking responsibility for herself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 709879, member: 19832"] I, too, have a 36 year old daughter, who is borderline, though not on the extreme end. I also have two other children. It's been heartbreak for the last 15 years because of her poor choices and expecting to be rescued. It's as though she is an open wound, and everything scrapes her, yet she cannot recognize her own unkindness and dysfunction. I am 64 and finally learning to set boundaries, but I fall down a lot still. I have come to believe that I must do what is right for me and the rest of my family, even if it feels unkind to her. Even those with personality issues such as Borderline (BPD) can choose to get help. I am choosing to save myself. It is hard. My daughter just left another abusive partner, whom I tried to warn her against. She has a newborn and a 5 year old and will possibly be homeless, but I have told her I won't take her in again. I've done it too many times. This is a time of my life when I deserve to use my resources and time as I see fit. My hope for you is that you recognize that you have done nothing wrong, you deserve to be treated with respect, and though it is difficult, the better you take care of yourself, better it will be for everyone, including your Borderline (BPD) model because she will have to face getting help and taking responsibility for herself. [/QUOTE]
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