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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 658874" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Tish, I do think it's kinder for grand to be placed while he is younger. You will still be able to see him, to know how he is and be sure he is alright, and to have him for holidays and so on.</p><p></p><p>I would do what you are doing for right now. Keep him with you for the present and begin sifting through options but with the intention that ultimately, the child will be placed in foster care. He sounds like a handful. If it turns out that you and D H can and are willing to have him with you after a week or two have passed, then you can rethink everything.</p><p></p><p>I would be angry, too.</p><p></p><p>Without any warning, the kids put outrageous responsibilities on our shoulders. We can no longer budget our money or lay claim to our time or even, have a clue what our own futures are going to look like.</p><p></p><p>That is the real frustration. </p><p></p><p>We have six grands. We did take the first two here and there. We had to tell our fourteen year old granddaughter that we would not take her. It was very hard. No one had been able to help her and we had to be honest about whether we could be what she needed, about whether we could keep her safe, or not. That is where you need to look I think, Tish. It is never that we don't love them, or that we don't want to keep them safe, or that we would not make the sacrifice taking the kids would entail. (Well, unless there are six.) But it <em>is</em> about how well we can provide for the child's needs and safety.</p><p></p><p>In addition, it will be difficult to refuse to house your son and daughter-in-law if your are raising their child.</p><p></p><p>You did the right thing in taking the child in, Tish. Being grandma to children parented the way our difficult child kids parents creates a dull, thudding anger in me. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 658874, member: 17461"] Tish, I do think it's kinder for grand to be placed while he is younger. You will still be able to see him, to know how he is and be sure he is alright, and to have him for holidays and so on. I would do what you are doing for right now. Keep him with you for the present and begin sifting through options but with the intention that ultimately, the child will be placed in foster care. He sounds like a handful. If it turns out that you and D H can and are willing to have him with you after a week or two have passed, then you can rethink everything. I would be angry, too. Without any warning, the kids put outrageous responsibilities on our shoulders. We can no longer budget our money or lay claim to our time or even, have a clue what our own futures are going to look like. That is the real frustration. We have six grands. We did take the first two here and there. We had to tell our fourteen year old granddaughter that we would not take her. It was very hard. No one had been able to help her and we had to be honest about whether we could be what she needed, about whether we could keep her safe, or not. That is where you need to look I think, Tish. It is never that we don't love them, or that we don't want to keep them safe, or that we would not make the sacrifice taking the kids would entail. (Well, unless there are six.) But it [I]is[/I] about how well we can provide for the child's needs and safety. In addition, it will be difficult to refuse to house your son and daughter-in-law if your are raising their child. You did the right thing in taking the child in, Tish. Being grandma to children parented the way our difficult child kids parents creates a dull, thudding anger in me. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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