Californiablonde
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So my boyfriend texts me yesterday asking if I want to do a pizza and movie night with the kids Friday night. Normally he only comes over on the weekends the kids are at their dads. I am perfectly fine with it. Friday nights are busy for me. I do all my grocery shopping after work, then I take a nice bath and relax a bit before settling in and watching my bridal shows. I am addicted to bridal shows and look forward to watching them every Friday night (I love weddings. Would love to have my own wedding, it's the marriage part I can do without.) Usually difficult child 1 watches her shows in the livingroom, difficult child 2 is on the computer, and I'm in the bedroom watching my own stuff. Now that my boyfriend is coming over my usual routine will be interrupted.
It's sweet, on his part, to want to get to know my kids better. He has only met them briefly twice. He has never sat down and had a conversation with either of them. He told me that since they are a part of me, and he loves me, he wants to get to get closer with my kids. He knows about their disabilities. I have already warned him that my son is autistic and not to be offended if he doesn't make eye contact or reciprocate in conversations. He will be lucky if he gets more than two words out of him. My daughter is more social but sometimes if she's in one of her typical teen "moods" she won't carry on a conversation either. Then there's the arguing and defiance. I am hoping both kids are on their best behavior tomorrow night. When they fight they get brutal. They swear and throw things at each other. They punch, hit, and kick. All it takes is one word to set somebody off then all hell breaks loose. I am hoping and praying this doesn't happen while he's there.
Part of me is glad my boyfriend wants to be a part of my kids' lives. The other part of me thinks he may be overwhelmed and it's too soon. I can't blame him for trying, though. I'm just hoping things go well and it's an enjoyable, peaceful night. Wish me luck!
It's sweet, on his part, to want to get to know my kids better. He has only met them briefly twice. He has never sat down and had a conversation with either of them. He told me that since they are a part of me, and he loves me, he wants to get to get closer with my kids. He knows about their disabilities. I have already warned him that my son is autistic and not to be offended if he doesn't make eye contact or reciprocate in conversations. He will be lucky if he gets more than two words out of him. My daughter is more social but sometimes if she's in one of her typical teen "moods" she won't carry on a conversation either. Then there's the arguing and defiance. I am hoping both kids are on their best behavior tomorrow night. When they fight they get brutal. They swear and throw things at each other. They punch, hit, and kick. All it takes is one word to set somebody off then all hell breaks loose. I am hoping and praying this doesn't happen while he's there.
Part of me is glad my boyfriend wants to be a part of my kids' lives. The other part of me thinks he may be overwhelmed and it's too soon. I can't blame him for trying, though. I'm just hoping things go well and it's an enjoyable, peaceful night. Wish me luck!