BusynMember
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My daughter and her friends all have "boyfriends." It doesn't seem that they do much more but hang together, talk on the phone, and say they love each other (I get a queasy feeling when I type that), but my daughter is a month shy of twelve and my first daughter turned into a druggie so I'm maybe more nervous than some mothers. On top of that, my daughter, who has serious Learning Disability (LD) issues and thinks she is "stupid" (her word, not mine) is a big hit both athletically and socially. Her self-esteem comes from sports and her gobs of friends. If I tell her she can't have a "boyfriend," I am pretty much isolating her from her friends. Can boys and girls have real romantic feelings toward one another at such a young age? I ask because, as a top geek, I didn't really feel attracted to boys my age until I was fourteen and no boys ever said they liked me until then either.
My daughter is very pretty and has a nice figure. She just got her period. She doesn't have difficult child behavior (yet), and I keep a close eye on her and her friends. It's not possible to watch her all the time, of course. Oh, yeah. She was at an overnight last night and I admit I looked at her computer to see if I saw anything suspicious (goodness, I'm bad!). I went on her MySpace and all her friend's MySpaces and they all seemed pretty innocent--nothing pornographic, no drug talk, just a lot of "I love Joe" and stuff like that.
Is this normal middle school behavior? What would you do about this? There are a lot of boys who seem to like her, which surprises me as she is one of the few biracial girls in a mostly white area, but she is just a very exotic girl with a winning personality and that all-important "good at sports." Although I can't call her a difficult child, she DOES struggle with LDs, which impacts how she feels about herself. And, of course, every kid her age is one step away from being a difficult child.
My daughter is very pretty and has a nice figure. She just got her period. She doesn't have difficult child behavior (yet), and I keep a close eye on her and her friends. It's not possible to watch her all the time, of course. Oh, yeah. She was at an overnight last night and I admit I looked at her computer to see if I saw anything suspicious (goodness, I'm bad!). I went on her MySpace and all her friend's MySpaces and they all seemed pretty innocent--nothing pornographic, no drug talk, just a lot of "I love Joe" and stuff like that.
Is this normal middle school behavior? What would you do about this? There are a lot of boys who seem to like her, which surprises me as she is one of the few biracial girls in a mostly white area, but she is just a very exotic girl with a winning personality and that all-important "good at sports." Although I can't call her a difficult child, she DOES struggle with LDs, which impacts how she feels about herself. And, of course, every kid her age is one step away from being a difficult child.