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<blockquote data-quote="seek" data-source="post: 717034" data-attributes="member: 22002"><p><strong>I understand how unbearable it can be to feel your "child" is on the street and could be in danger. I seriously do not know how all of the parents in the world handle this, because there are a lot of homeless people everywhere - and many of them have parents.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>You have to do what you feel is right in the moment.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I hope maybe you will consider counseling, because your welfare is at stake. He will "sink or swim" based on his actions and his decisions, but you do not want to go down with the ship. You have other children and grandkids who need you and you have to provide for your own needs and your old age. I encourage you to start being a little bit more selfish and maybe prepare for the next emergency - I don't know what that would look like, but maybe tell him no more money - it's up to him now and that you must take care of yourself - that you are a senior citizen.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I seriously think it is elder abuse to ask a senior who is on a fixed income for money. You need to protect yourself - tell him the Bank of Mom is closed.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I pray you can do this - if you have to, make all of your "extra" money inaccessible - tied up - so you cannot liquidate it easily.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>It's great that he found Catholic Charities. I hope that it gives you comfort to see that he really can brainstorm and figure out how to take care of himself when mom is not available.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>If you think about this logically, you are not going to be around forever - and then what?</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>He has to take responsibility for himself and he won't do that until you say "no." </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Good luck and take care of yourself now!</strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seek, post: 717034, member: 22002"] [B]I understand how unbearable it can be to feel your "child" is on the street and could be in danger. I seriously do not know how all of the parents in the world handle this, because there are a lot of homeless people everywhere - and many of them have parents. You have to do what you feel is right in the moment. I hope maybe you will consider counseling, because your welfare is at stake. He will "sink or swim" based on his actions and his decisions, but you do not want to go down with the ship. You have other children and grandkids who need you and you have to provide for your own needs and your old age. I encourage you to start being a little bit more selfish and maybe prepare for the next emergency - I don't know what that would look like, but maybe tell him no more money - it's up to him now and that you must take care of yourself - that you are a senior citizen. I seriously think it is elder abuse to ask a senior who is on a fixed income for money. You need to protect yourself - tell him the Bank of Mom is closed. I pray you can do this - if you have to, make all of your "extra" money inaccessible - tied up - so you cannot liquidate it easily. It's great that he found Catholic Charities. I hope that it gives you comfort to see that he really can brainstorm and figure out how to take care of himself when mom is not available. If you think about this logically, you are not going to be around forever - and then what? He has to take responsibility for himself and he won't do that until you say "no." Good luck and take care of yourself now![/B] [/QUOTE]
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