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<blockquote data-quote="TerriH" data-source="post: 722857" data-attributes="member: 298"><p>Too tired to think, I really do understand. My sister in law was in a similar fix.</p><p></p><p>When she was homeless, she had access to the food pantry, the homeless shelter, friends sofas, she got disability payments, she worked for short periods of time, and that was just what we knew of. The family was NOT her only source of help.</p><p></p><p>The way out of the trap she had made for herself was section 8 housing, but this was something ONLY she could do, as she wasted any help the family gave her.</p><p></p><p>I will be honest with you, she was homeless for perhaps 2 years. It bothered me a lot, as we had this perfectly good home, but because of her history of drug abuse I did not DARE let her live in the same home with my kids, who were in their early teens. I did NOT! want dealers coming to my home. If it were not for them I might have let her move in, and it would have been a major error. Because if I had let her move in she would NEVER have CHOSEN to live a healthier life. We did stop helping her, and I did feel guilty about it, but we decided help would hurt her more than help her.</p><p></p><p>Eventually, a social worker helped her get into section 8 housing, and after being homeless she actually took life more seriously. When her family helped her it just made it possible for her to continue getting into trouble, but when her family STOPPED helping her, she actually started taking care of herself.</p><p></p><p>Today she is *STILL* taking care of herself, and if we had helped her I think she would still be seeing how much trouble she could get into. She enjoyed getting into trouble, actually. I will repeat that: she did enjoy getting into trouble. It was exciting to her.</p><p></p><p>She has been in section 8 housing for about 10 years now. We do sometimes send her $20 when she asks, but she rarely asks. It took being homeless for an extended time for her to take life seriously, and she would NOT have taken life seriously if she had not been forced to, because the family would no longer support her.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong.</p><p></p><p>If your son gets kicked of his apartment he can crash on a friend's sofa. He can visit a homeless shelter. The food pantry will feed him. Food stamps are available. Section 8 housing might be available. He *CAN* manage. You are NOT his only resource: let your tax dollars support him for a bit. There are social workers in every city who will help him if he wants help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerriH, post: 722857, member: 298"] Too tired to think, I really do understand. My sister in law was in a similar fix. When she was homeless, she had access to the food pantry, the homeless shelter, friends sofas, she got disability payments, she worked for short periods of time, and that was just what we knew of. The family was NOT her only source of help. The way out of the trap she had made for herself was section 8 housing, but this was something ONLY she could do, as she wasted any help the family gave her. I will be honest with you, she was homeless for perhaps 2 years. It bothered me a lot, as we had this perfectly good home, but because of her history of drug abuse I did not DARE let her live in the same home with my kids, who were in their early teens. I did NOT! want dealers coming to my home. If it were not for them I might have let her move in, and it would have been a major error. Because if I had let her move in she would NEVER have CHOSEN to live a healthier life. We did stop helping her, and I did feel guilty about it, but we decided help would hurt her more than help her. Eventually, a social worker helped her get into section 8 housing, and after being homeless she actually took life more seriously. When her family helped her it just made it possible for her to continue getting into trouble, but when her family STOPPED helping her, she actually started taking care of herself. Today she is *STILL* taking care of herself, and if we had helped her I think she would still be seeing how much trouble she could get into. She enjoyed getting into trouble, actually. I will repeat that: she did enjoy getting into trouble. It was exciting to her. She has been in section 8 housing for about 10 years now. We do sometimes send her $20 when she asks, but she rarely asks. It took being homeless for an extended time for her to take life seriously, and she would NOT have taken life seriously if she had not been forced to, because the family would no longer support her. Stay strong. If your son gets kicked of his apartment he can crash on a friend's sofa. He can visit a homeless shelter. The food pantry will feed him. Food stamps are available. Section 8 housing might be available. He *CAN* manage. You are NOT his only resource: let your tax dollars support him for a bit. There are social workers in every city who will help him if he wants help. [/QUOTE]
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